Dh & I want to dabble in some internet porn - don't slag me off - just need some advice

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Dh and I want to explore some internet porn on a site that we have found - all consenting adults, etc. There is a facility to download films if you pay a certain amount: one small sum for 3 day 'membership' and then another to join for a month. If we did one of these and paid on credit card, a)would it be traceable and obvious by anyone knowing what they were looking for on our pc? b)would it show up on our credit card/bank statement? c) is what we're doing illegal? WE are both responsible adults, doing a bit of experimenting but I am a bit nervous about using the internet, although it seems a good alternative to having vids lying about the house. Please don't slag me off. If porn's not your thing, then just ignore this. I'm not a perv.

you'd only need to get rid of it if it was illegal though.

hi sadom,

are you new? havent seen you around before.

love huggy xx

I am new, I've been lurking for years, but often wanted to comment on some things, where I may be able help. So I have taken the plunge. My ID stands for Sad Old Man.
I have found the comments and topics that relate to me have helped me in trying to understand my marital situations. Especially from getting a womans point of view. I am married, thank you mumsnet!

i would just dl it tbh

was wondering where HappyDaddy was as havent seen him post for days...should have known he'd pop up on this post

you know, i've just had another thought - you could make your own porn! camcorder, lots and lots (AND LOTS) of booze!!

has anyone here ever done that i wonder!!

happy daddy - you are obviously a very hard man to please! i think the sky stuff is good! i wouldnt want to see extreme close ups iykwim, but it is very naughty - not to mention very funny!!!!!

We did our own vid MTP and I really regret it, I wouldn't advise anyone to do that.

Dp refuses to get rid of the tape and has told other people about it.

I feel so ashamed about it and am sure if we ever split up that dp would use it against me.

Kama, no offence taken.

After I posted I realised that it's really not for me to advise on as it is the problems in our relationship that made it a bad thing for me to do.

I just really regret it and feel really ashamed.

It was quite early on in our relationship and i think now that i was certainly manipulated in some way by dp as i was pretty unexperianced and he wasn't.

god isnt it weird how people just appear on threads like this

they have been lurking for ages

WishIHadnt ..... I'm actually of the belief that what consenting (very important that) adults get up to in the privacy of their own home is entirely up to them and therefore you shouldn't necessarily castigate yourself for making your own video. In itself, it is not a "shameful" thing to do.

However, the main point here is that, for whatever reason, you have formed regrets since and you say your other half "refuses" to get rid of the tape. For him to betray your trust in telling other people about it too is horrid. To me, that attitude comes across as quite controlling and even, a bit sinister ... almost like the threat of this becoming (more) public is being held over you. All things considered, as you can't trust him to do the decent thing, I'd take matters into my own hands and either wipe the tape myself or completely dispose of it (in pieces). As one of the parties involved you are perfectly entitled to do this.

Exactly what I was thinking, catsmother.