How do you find a good relationship counsellor

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Me and Dh have some unresolved issues relating to an affair he had several years ago.

I have been having individual therapy for something else and this has reared its head as a sticking point.

How do you find someone good?

What questions would you ask?

Any qualifications or strategies you would lokk for?

TIA

try here for a qualified and accredited counsellor or try Relate (all qualified or in training)

Thank you LFC

Would this include NLP trained therapists. I like the nlp approach.

here for NLP professionals

You'll have to scroll through to see if there's a couples therapist.

Good luck

I googled relationship counsellors in my area and found a website listing details of several local counsellors. I phoned them up to get an idea of what they were like and the type of counselling they offered. I'm not keen on a psychodynamic approach so was looking for something along the lines of humanistic/rogerian counselling. Might have just been lucky but was very happy with the ones we chose. We opted for two counsellors (they were a couple I think)to see us jointly, then my h went for a couple of 1-1 sessions once I felt I'd gained what I needed from it.

your nearest relate centre or UKCP or BPS websites (the find a theapist bit on both of these sites should allow you to search be couples specialisation)

oh and ring three od four up to get a sense of them and go and meet two or three.... main thing is that you feel you can work with them

Thanks for all the input.

I will shortlist a few and call them first. Then visit a couple to see what their approach is.