new man - do I just wait for him to contact me, or...?

[ednaturnblatt]

At the weekend I went to a party with some friends. Also there was a man I've known for a while through work, who I'd been told had a 'soft spot' for me.

We spent some time talking, more than we had previously, and got on (I thought) quite well. Very well in fact - so much so that the evening ended with much kissing!

Anyway, it ended up I had to leave a bit abruptly so we didn't get to exchange numbers. However, he has my work email & vice versa, so he emailed me today, general chit chat stuff. And didnt mention the party at all

So I asked him about it, making clear that on my part it wasn't just a drunken kiss I'd prefer to forget. In reply, he said he's been on his own for 5 years and finds the thought of a relationship terrifying.

I said I didnt want to rush into anything which is true. so we've exchanged numbers now, but nothing else has been said, & it all seems a bit unresolved

Should I just be waiting now for him to call me - is he even going to? Haven't dated in SO long I feel like I have no idea about all this stuff. I expected that when I heard from him today we'd arrange something, like going for a coffee - have I got this all wrong? Does it not work like that anymore?!

Or is he just not that interested?

[ednaturnblatt]

I know, you're right he's only a man & I am definitely getting more drawn in cos he's not chasing me!

Am going to try and remind myself that at the weekend I was actually hoping he wouldn't be too interested I was - am - looking to 'date', rather than dive into some full-on relationship, which I was slightly concerned (albeit unnecessarily!) he might want. And even now I know I still don't want anything serious, not til I know him better!

So, wobble over, calmness resumed , & we'll see what happens or doesnt