What the hell is wrong with me?

[emogedden]

I want a long term relationship yeah but after about 3 or 4 weeks I get bored and want out.

The bloke could be perfect....it does not make a difference. What is wrong with me?

Why have I no staying power?

I have met a wonderful man and after 3 and a half weeks I am like ummmmmm yeahhh ok....the fireworks and BOOM you get when you have met someone has gone.

Am I man lol?

That would still scare the hell out of me. I have a list of qualities in my head that my 'ideal' bloke would have, they are really stupid ones that no one would ever have, I've actually met someone with 99% of them and it's really freaked me out.

Do you like him though?? enough with the bored or irritated, do you like him??

Fluff I REALLY like him.

Cocklodger = basically a bloke who wants to be fed and cleaned up after and indulged by a woman in exchange for a shag or two and the occasional bunch of petrol-station flowers.

so bite the bullett, go for it. Tell him you've not experienced a loving, caring relationship (I've had to do this, it's OK (ish)) before though. Take each day as it comes and see what happens. This is your relationship with him, not anyone else. Life's short!! Remember this. It's lonely sometimes aswell.

It would scare the hell out of me but I'd jump in and see how far I swam IYSWIM. What have you go to loose??

its not annoyance, its not not seeing a good relationship between your parents, its not boredom.
It is plain and simple fear....fear of losing your identity, freedom, and all that goes with it.

I was once like this after splitting with my first b'f of 5 yrs. I met a guy, was with him a month and wanted someone else, ended up with him for 4 long hard terrible, years. I then spent 5 years alone with ds1 having fun, I met dp in feb 2006, he moved in with me in march 2006, we went on a family holiday in June 2006, I fell pg december 2006 and well we are still together, like we have always been....there is still a spark there, the passion is still there...and I could not be without him now even though when we argue i tell him to sod off...

Emo - that sounds ok to me. That feeling that someone just fits in your life is definitely a positive thing. I say go for it

I think my ex must have been the ultimate cocklodger. He used to buy me the tatty gifts using my credit card . Still, they say it's the thought that counts...