Should I continue to date this guy?

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Sorry, namechanged for this post, as I am fairly regular and don't want this to affect my regular postings.

Anyways, I have been a single mum for a while now, with a 20 month old DD. I don't date very often, and only have been out once or twice in the last six months. I work in a university which has very close links to a major football club.

Anyway to cut a long story short, a footballer asked me out to dinner a couple weeks ago, and I went. Had fun, but the guy was not the sharpest tool in the box. He was nice, but not really my type, and my usual type tends to be quite intellectual. Asked me out again last week, and I said yes, but now feeling like I shouldn't have said yes, as I feel like I am leading him on. Also, I am quite passionate about my football, but support a different team to what he plays for.

Anyway, family and friends think I am nuts to not want to date him (cute, bags of money, quite nice generally). So in a bind really. Should I continue to date him or politely say I am not interested?

Oh yeah actually I agree with dittany (again) - if the best thing about your date was the lovely restaurant then that says a lot...

Doesn't mean you can't see him again, but perhaps be honest with yourself about your motives...

Obviously, my subject area was never English grammar (sorry)

It was a lovely restaurant though, and great food

Don't worry about regretting it if you decide not to go further on this, you can always say: "I dated XYZ" when somebody ask you what is your claim to fame.

I cannot spell, I kow.

You guys can spell ever so well

bugger, see I didn't even get know right

Yes, I did have a laugh at that

Ahem... I know I have far too much time in my hands, but how did it go?

I think it's entirely reasonable to conclude from a first date, 'that was a nice restaurant, I enjoyed the food, not too worried if I see him again'. How attached are you supposed to feel after one date?? I turned down DH for a date dozens of times over the course of about 18 months and in the end I gave in and went out with him. It was nice, he took me to a nice place and we had cocktails, lovely food etc and I enjoyed it for what it was - an evening out. It was a long time before I fell in love with him, but now he is the best friend I have ever had (and he's pretty hot in the sack also) - give him a chance. Go out with him, enjoy yourself and don't worry about where it is going. As others have said, if he annoys you, is rude or creeps you out then stop seeing him. Until then, as my mother (ahem) would say, 'keep it light'. He's offering an evening out - not marriage. Take it for what it is.

Think ahead.

Do you want to be involved with a rich, good looking famous man whose wealth, looks and reputation are admired and wanted by lots of other women too? You'll never have him to yourself.

He may be a great guy, he may not be, who knows. I have to confess the not having heard of Oliver Twist thing would be a deal breaker for me** unless he was Thierry Henry.

Any update?

To be honest, letting his fame and riches stand in your way is as shallow as letting a bad haircut and an old sweater stand in your way.

If the only bad thing you can say about the guy after your date is that he is rich, he did not know Oliver Twist and people were asking for his autograph, then I am a little Seems a good enough starting point to date, to me, at least.

He sounds nice!

If you don't want him pass him onto me!

If he dosn't float your boat probably not worth it.

yes I konw everyone else is right but...... Does he have a FIT ASS??

If yes then use & abuse (& post pics

Have some fun and live for the moment whilst your dc are young & at babysitters