joint parenting

[wonderingwilbury]

Was going to post in AIBU, but can't deal with the unavoidable argument discussion...

So I'd like views:

If your DH / DP were away all week (unavoidable), and works really hard...

And you are at all home alone with 2 babies under 2 yo

How much housework / childcare would you think was acceptable for your DH /DP at a weekend?

Just vote for

1. You'd expect a complete break with him looking after both kids, even if he has had a hard week...

1. You'd expect him to want to give you a break but expect him to only look after 1 child at a time. 50:50 is ok...

1. You would expect him to want a break and not deal with the kids, other than play time. After all, you are a SAHM so house and kids are your job...

As someone else said, when you are with them all the time a tiny break such as sitting in the dentist's chair on your own can be utter bliss.
It's very different doing a job and doing the childcare - I bet his colleagues don't need changing or act totally irrationally without warning or rush straight towards the nearest danger or can't lift food to their mouths without smearing it all over the floor, table and walls.
Time for a dose of SAHM flu if you are feeling cheeky. Am guessing at least on of the DCs if not both are in pushchairs - how about a nice walk in the park and some fresh air when he's been cooped up at his desk all week.
No ifs no buts - one lie-in per adult per-weekend, one afternoon of family time and one afternoon when you are unencumbered by the DCs.
Then work out where your individual strengths lie for other stuff. My BiL cooks as therapy for my DSis after long commute for example and does the house admin on the train, for example. She does ironing while watching telly otherwise she says she'd fall asleep and miss what she wants to watch.
Me I do it all badly but would really resent carrying an adult over the weekend and having the DCs full-time. Am guessing he wanted the DCs? Then he needs to pull his weight at weekend. He couldn't work as he does if you weren't caring for them full-time during the week