Violent reaction when confronted with suspected infedility??

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Can anyone offer an opinion as to why dh would have got v aggressive & violent when I confronted him that I suspected he was being unfaithful. He is very prone to being fiery when confronted. I'm just wondering was his reaction because he was angry over being caught or angry over being accused in the wrong? Anyone any experience of this?

is he still behaving this way?

side affects from meds? god,i donn't know. if you're scared of him tho,or worried he might get worse,then i'd get the police out to him.

No, macdoodle, not touchy. I know that I have no personal agenda that I'm really responding to when I contribute to a thread like this. I'm not sure that everyone who has posted here could honestly say the same.

I'm often taken aback at how quickly, and with what little information, people will leap straight to the nuclear option on these threads. As I said, we do not actually know what has happened between the OP and her dh or whether he actually had an affair. I really do think that any responsible person would need more information before offering any opinion worth sharing.

afair or not.....anyone can see its unacceptable behaviour.

and everyone in his life commenting on it too....says alot.

Physical violence is unacceptable. Infidelity is unacceptable.

Here on MN, we still don't know enough to know whether the OP's dh is guilty of either.

startingover, if your dh's behaviour made you scared, whether you have proof that he was unfaithful or not, you should take action to keep yourself safe. Perhaps it will be the jolt he needs to get help, perhaps not. Either way, you need to be, and to feel, safe.

I'd still be interested to know what actually happened, tho.

Thanks again for replies. I am safe, he's moved out. Ms Highwater, what happened was I confronted him with something he'd done which appeared to me to confirm that he'd been unfaithful. He appeared to get all flustered firstly & this indicated to me that he must be guilty so I told him very calmly it was over. He then went mental & seemed to loose control of himself, screaming, shouting, breaking things etc. I asked him to stop & calm down but there was no getting through to him. Hope that answers you q.

startingover, good to know that you are safe. I hope that things work out for the best for you, one way or another.

MrsBoogie - LMFAO at Jeb - I say that all the time!!

I would think guilty.
Have no experience of violent or aggressive outbursts from DH myself, but think I would err on side of guilty.