Oh God - am I making the same mistake again?

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Hiya,

I've posted on here before. I was in a relationship with a man who abused me emotionally and who I now beleive was a narcissist. Among other problems, he also suffered, on and off, with depression (Apparently, I was the cause of this, but that's a whole nother can of worms).

Anyway, after two years of being on my own, I have recently dipped my toe into the world of internet dating and have been chatting with a very nice man, who works in the medical profession. We're meeting up for lunch on Sunday, for the first time.

So, while we were chatting on the phone last night, he mentioned that he has suffered from depression in the past and is currently receiving psychotherapy.

I don't want to make the same mistakes as before. I can't go through that again. Should I pull out now, go through with the meeting, but then not push it any further or give the man a chance.

I just can't trust my own judgement anymore..........Help!

Give him the benefit of one date, but if you don't want to be with anyone with depression that is your choice and fair enough and in that case, don't see him again.

Who kows, you might see him and be instantly put off anyway.

What I'm saying is, the date might bring closure to the whole thing anyway, so it could be easier to have nothing more to do with him after meeting him.

I was in a relationship with a man with mh issues and i would never do it again, even if it was only depression. It's no reflection on the person, but on my coping ability. I just couldn't do it, i don't have it in me. It would end in tears. Listen to your instinct on this one. There is someone who can handle it with no problems out there for him, if it's not you, that's fine, you need to be ok first.