Another control freak?

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I went out with this man for about 18 months, and then we split up. We got back together recently, about 3 weeks ago, and things seemed ok. But I can't help but feel that his behaviour is becoming controlling again (one of the main reasons we split up before, although his defence is that he is merely passionate, not controlling!). The thing that has set off alarm bells again is that recently I said to him that I wanted to get a vibrator, and he said that if I did I must keep it at his house!!! That way I would only be able to use it in his presence! Basically I would have to ask his permission to use my own vibrator! It's not just this, obviously,there are other things but this one really set off the alarms. Am I over reacting?

have you booted him yet, oneday?

no way, is this my ex? So much rings true, SO much, I thought there was only one in the world!!! I doubted myself also until my mother begged me to leave him, and once i knew I could count on her support that was it.

What a complete nobbo.

You've already ditched him once, do it again now and don't give him another second of your time.

OMG definitely get rid of him if the children don't like him. Surely they're a million times more important? And he sounds like a complete twat anyway.

Yes, the kids are definately a million times more important. It's a shame as LO did like him, but he ruined that with his behaviour. My eldest tolerated him because he was my bf, but she is much less tolerant than me (not a bad thing!) and couldn't understand why I kept giving him chances.
Anyway, I haven't heard anything from him since Monday; if and when he does get back in touch I will tell him it's over - life is much calmer without him in it.