About 18 months ago, a colleague was very worried about his health. He'd seen GP and been referred to a specialist and he'd convinced himself he was going to die. He's usually a very private person and no-one at work knew he'd seen doctor, but that week we were working alone together a lot, he was clearly very upset and eventually I got him to talk about it. No-one else at work ever knew about it.
That night, I started a thread on MN so see if I could find out if he was right to be so worried. I got one particularly detailed response which was very reassuring, so I sent him a text with the details, only I said I'd spoken to a doctor friend The poster turned out to be very knowledgeable, because he was told the same things by his specialist a couple of weeks later. The problem hasn't gone, but it's certainly not life threatening.
Since then, we've become good friends and spend a lot of time together with our families. Recently I've been promoted and whilst I'm thrilled and enjoying the job, I'm finding it difficult and it has coincided with some issues for my DCs which have meant I've struggled from time to time. He has been a huge support to me. I thanked him for what he's done yesterday. His response was "It's the least I can do after the trouble you went to, phoning people, when I thought I was dying". I'd forgotten all about that
So do I admit to my MN habit, or let him think I put myself out more than I did?