The Hit List

[TwoPersephone]

We have the $hit list, so now what about the flip side of the coin, what are the early signs of a really good catch?

Especially things that may at first put you off.

I was thinking about charming men, how at first, to the unwise and unwary, they can seem ideal but actually charm can be a danger sign. Alternativly, a slightly bumbling fumbling shy man may make the perfect partner once he finds his feet.

Not bothered about losing his hair, just shaves it off and gets on with it.

you go a midnight wander round asda for supplies and declare "your not hungry".... as you weren't at the time.

then half an hour after getting home you decide your ravenous and he offers you tea and toast with jam , without a murmur or complaint.

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if he goes on a planned holiday/business trip in the early days he still keeps in contact rather than disappearing off face of planet for the duration

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he doesn't drop his plans and friends at the opportunity to see you, or expect you to do similar.... means you dont see him/her much at the beginning of relationship.. but also means that when they make plans and agree to something they stick to it. bodes well that if they make a plans with you they will be stuck to also.

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you mention your fav chocs in conversation or in passing them in shops...... next time you meet he brings them with him .... and they are exactly the right ones.

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he likes how you look first thing in morning, no make-up, hair that would scare a cat.infact he even says you look gorgeous.

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Unquiet dad, are you serious? being a mum is a full time job and isn't living off a man, what utter garbage!
Just who do you think would look after YOUR children if your wife worked full time - the magic childcare fairy? Unless a woman has a highly paid job then in all likelyhood working full time just about covers full time nursery fees so is absolutely pointless.

Accepts you for what you are
the good,the bad and the ugly
And loves you for it

I am assuming UnquietDad's

"Has own career - does not expect to give up work at 30 and live off a man"

doesn't mean being a sahm with the full support of her DH/DP

FWIW I usually love UnquietDad and his words of wisdom.

He sends you his last rolo through the post when he is in his last year at Uni and you have already graduated

Holds your hair when you are sick and doesn't comment about how bad the bathroom smells when you have had the squits for the last 24 hours

He is kind.

He is well behaved when sober or drunk and is aware how he comes across to others.

He sees the funny side when he catches you reading a map upside down.

He would never say anything to hurt you.

He lies and says you look gorgeous/thin even when his eyes are swivelling with the effort because you look rough/fat

Don't get your knickers in a twist. Of course I don't mean being a SAHM if that is the way the family finances have been agreed. I mean that there are some women for whom giving up work when they meet a man is their aim, and that they honestly don't see why they should work if he is doing so. Even before children.

btw malificence, we both work full time.