perhaps i'm asking you to break a sacred bond

[anonymouschap]

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how long have you been married ac?

when did it change?

did the change coincide with kids?

Definately would need new underwear, unless you keep her in good threads permanently! If so, can you have a word with my dp as i'm currently interchanging between maternity thongs (which, by their name should have been ditched 7wks ago!) and the most humungous apple catchers ever to grace the planet! At least they keep me warm.

Could the condoms be because she wants to get across that she doesn't want anymore kids yet? I tried to bully dp into getting some (without seriously expecting him to) just so he knew i was serious about waiting for the next one.

that's a toughie. i'm not proud of it, but i've cheated in long-term relationships, twice, and the blokes never found out.

i made sure the person was always someone with just as much to lose as i had if found out. so they were very discreet. i also made 100% it wasn't someone silly enough to fall in love.

in addition i made sure it was someone entirely disconnected to the life i shared with my partner. someone totally out of our sphere.

i NEVER texted, either, only talked. i'd save their names under a friends name so if my partner chanced to look at my call log he'd see nothing but friends' names. NEVER emailed, either.

my lovers and i had code sentences in case one or another called at an inappropriate time.

i also had a large circle of female friends, all of whom were good alibis.

kept having the same type of sex.

so it could be less straightforward. sorry to be blunt, but sometimes people can be quite cunning.

i was always the sort of person who wore good underwear.

i did it for the sex, in all honesty. i wanted to have sex with different men.

immature, dishonest, and selfish, i know. as i stated, it's not something i'm proud of.