I'm really down about this - I'd be interested in some different points of view. My best friend and I are both 9 wks pregnant. There ends the similarities. I have 3 other kids, this is her first, she is very independent minded/ body concious, I'm less so. My dp is supportive, hers wanted the baby but has issues... he's also unemployed and broke. She has no family locally, her mum lives in France. The timing of us both being pregnant is partly because we both talked about it in general terms and partly luck/coincidence. We've both been feeling awful but I know it will pass and what's coming next - she feels fat, sick, miserable and depressed. This is compounded by a pre-existing gastric problem which has been made worse. She doubts she even wants kids at all. Her dp thinks she is making it all up (symptoms and probably the pregnancy as well!). When she talked about termination with him, all he could say was 'at least we could have sex then!'. Bastard! Now after GP was unsympathetic to her symptoms/feelings she has had a referral for a termination. I am quite upset by this (NOT because I disapprove but because I think she is making a mistake) she could have to wait up to 4 wks on the NHS - she'd be 13 wks by then and have to have an operation and all that entails. I'm hoping she will feel better. I'm feeling like a know it all at the moment re pregnancy - I think it will be hard for seeing me pregnant/giving birth/having a baby etc when she should have been. Argh! It's such a mess, any suggestions? She's not really a talker, I don't think she would want to discuss it with a stranger.