Being a housewife

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Hello there
Is there anyone else like me?
Of all my mum friends I dont know anyone else who is at home with kids kind of through choice.
I didnt earn enough money to pay for nursery and then have any income at the end of the month. My husband earns an ok wage but he is no high flyer. We get by, and just dont spend on things we dont need...
Anyway, I am finding it quite hard that people are quite dismissive and dont get why i am not working.
Is it so wierd that I choose this? should I be busting a gut to run kids to school, nursery etc? I do need time-off which is hard to negotiate. But why am I feeling like an outcast?

I would love to be a sahm, but can't afford to. Not until my husband gets a permanent position, which seems so unrealistic at the moment.

If you enjoy being a sahm, then enjoy it (for my sake). Tell any judgey pants to come speak to me, as I will tell them exactly how much I have missed out on because I had to work, and how many regrets I have because of it. I fully respect and understand those that chose to go back to work, because they need the mental stimulation that goes with it.

Go with what makes you and your family unit happy. You are not going to be happy if you make a choice based on trying to please somebody else.

being currently a SAHM but not much of a housewife

all I can say is that it was through choice and what worked for us, one would always be at home over the first few years anyway, providing we could afford it

I think you need your own time, it is a hard job, quite draining at times
but people do look down and I think I can often be dismissed sometimes by the unlikeliest sources but hey I know I am not any different now that I was when on the career thingy, except now am a mother with less money

Itis up to you really and all choices have positive and negative sides
sometimes it depends on the day

Oh it's so hard. I wanted to be sahm as it took us ages to start a family. At 15 months I actually wanted to work plus I was about to hit 40 so I felt I should do something to keep my cv up to date.

Economically it was absolutely worth my while and I found my young (and very hip) colleagues very supportive.

Job is now finished (and I sort of resigned anyhow) and I'm happy to be a sahm for a while till my little one starts school.

I don't think I'll ever get the balance for me right. But I don't regret any of the choices I made.

I don't feel like a social outcast at all - don't have time to ponder the views the people who have no idea what it's like to be a parent, or those very highflying parents who chose to maintain a high level career.

You do what's best for you but try not to lose yourself and your needs and interests.