I've had some concerns about DH spending habits for some time. We do not have a joint bank account and share the housebills equally. Aside from the main bills, he withdraws hundreds of pounds from his bank account every week. Trouble is, I have no idea what he spends it on and I only found out by sneakily looking at his bank statements. I became suspicious during a recent mortgage application when it became apparent he had greatly overstated his savings and understated his credit card debt. He also 'forgot' to tell me about additional monthly income he received from his wealthy parents. He barely drinks, does not take drugs, works regular hours and is rarely away from home overnight. He does not spends much on clothes or gadgets and we do not dine out in expensive restaurants. I have raised this issue with him several times and he has offered no reasonable explanation. I've asked if he gambles, uses prostitues, has large debts, children from a previous relationship. He denied all but my insticts tell he something is very wrong. I earn my own money so please do not think I am upset that he is not spending enough on me!!
I am going crazy with worry imagining all the worst possible scenarios. I probably will not like what I hear. I am not sleeping well and feel very down about this. His parents are wonderful and we have a very relationship but and am reluctant to get them involved. Any advice on how to get to the truth?