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I'm pregnant, hormonal and need a facebook whinge

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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 25/08/2009 21:48

God today is the most hormonal day of my life so bear with me. But I need a whinge.

Having a horrible day as it is but also...

DH is one of those people who's liked by everyone. He'd slept with well into the hundreds of girls by the time we'd met. He's no cheater since we've been together- we're a good couple and best friends, too.

The thing is, I've had facebook for years, and he's just got it, and everyone keeps tagging him in pictures of before we met where they're kissing him or there's hundreds of girls hanging off him etc.

I know it's not his fault, and I haven't said anything. But grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. People can see we got married a couple of weeks ago- our wedding pics are on there. So why rake up the past? It's not very nice for his pregnant wife to see. Mine all seem to be pics of me with him and our little DS but then these girls seem so desperate to tag him. And it just all feels like the girls are being smug IYSWIM.

One girl e-mailed him last week. She asked him specifically (with no mention of me) to go to her birthday night out. He hasn't seen her for years. He didn't reply to her, he thought it was weird. Then when I was sat next to him she spoke to him on the chat saying something about him being 'all settled now' but sort of questioning it and taking the huff.

He just laughs it off- doesn't matter to him. And usually I do too.

But today it has gotten on my toddle pip!!!!!

Why are women soooooooo bitchy?

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mrsboogie · 25/08/2009 22:26

there there, let it all out love

better out than in (or bending his ear)

don't blame ya - I'd be spitting hormonal feathers of irrational rage too!

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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 26/08/2009 09:15

so glad someone understands. They're all so pretty and thin and tanned, and I look like a beached whale at the moment.

Have only been with DH 2 years and 4 months so he looks almost like now on some of the pics grrr. And the worst thing is, he's been out with a couple of men's mag models before we met. None- stretchmark, none- hormonal, none- fat models.

Hmmmmmmmmm

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JRocks · 26/08/2009 09:19

Good to let it out. He can delete tags on photos if he wants to, and can also reply to the silly moo that found him on chat 'yes all settled, never been happier'.

LadyOfWaffle · 26/08/2009 09:23

Let him be tagged - everyone can see what a great catch you got Saying that, if it was DHs ex I would be mad but it's abit pathetic. He's married to you now, feel smug in that

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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 26/08/2009 09:25

He did put that and she really saw arse, then when she realised from the convo I was there, she put 'tell [totally] congrats. I'll leave you to it.' definate moo.

If he deletes the tags I'll look like a psycho bitch from hell .. I am, but I don't want them knowing that

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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 26/08/2009 09:25

sorry Lady I cross posted I suppose I should look at it like that!!

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JRocks · 26/08/2009 09:29

ah then you're sorted, he sounds lovely, I'd just be smug if I were you

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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 26/08/2009 10:08

Oh yes got to have a bit of the old MacIntyre and DH has his man drawer too

I know what you mean about any past photos. It's this whole life that we're not involved in isn't it?

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MaDuggar · 26/08/2009 10:23

If it was my DP, id make him un-tag himself but then i dont mind being a psycho-bitch lol! I get insanely jealous over pics of my DPs past, mad isnt it? He is 8 years older than me, so has loads more history than I do, pics of him out clubbing while i was still at primary school ha ha!

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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 26/08/2009 10:40

MaDugger- mine is 5 years older so he has an extra chunk of oh-so-fun past that I'm not in on, too! Plus all of the girls are a little older and a little more fun than me! And they all know each other, and I don't.

Reality- yep we are definately lost causes I think mine is the same sort of issue- yours are doctors, lawyers, mine are page three models, skinny beautiful, fun ladies. You're a tattood housewife, I'm a big fat moaning pregnant woman with PND

But they must love us eh?

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sandcastles · 26/08/2009 10:47

"They're all so pretty and thin and tanned....

....And the worst thing is, he's been out with a couple of men's mag models before we met. None- stretchmark, none- hormonal, none-fat models"

Yes, but he is married to YOU! Be proud of that!

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ginnny · 26/08/2009 10:51

I think this will all die down. If he's new to FB people will delight in putting embarrassing photos on their for a while then when the novelty wears off it will stop.
When I started on FB loads of my friends tagged all the embarrassing school photos of me, but I just untagged any that I didn't like.
Feel flattered that of all these women YOU are the one he married and YOU are having his baby. They are probably green with envy that you ended up with him.
I understand that you are hormonal though and it makes you irrational.
And I bet you don't look like a beached whale either.

Trikken · 26/08/2009 11:26

I have had similar with my dh being pestered on fbk (and though txts when I fell pregnant) by a girl who has fancied him for years. I try to not let it get to me, but through her pestering him all the time it has actually put him off being friends with her completely. so she's lost out all together by being ott.

pure jealousy is what it is. ignore it and be happy and think of the lovely new addition you'll soon have to your family!

PreciousCargo · 26/08/2009 17:53

Women are bitcy and VERY jealous. That is the problem with Facebook, it makes these desperate, jealous women feel like they stand a chance just because they are listed as one of a squillion "Friends", and just because they can post up pictures to remind them what they could have had. Don't worry, they will definitely see what he has got now. Let them tag silly pictures if it makes them feel better, it's you he comes home to at the end of the day.

MamaLazarou · 26/08/2009 18:39

You have my sincere sympathies darling. I am also pregnant and hormonal, and I know how impossible it can be to deal with things like this when you're feeling so emotional and vulnerable.

Let those silly bitches reminisce over the past, still reliving the moment when they once kissed a handsome man years after the event. Then feel smug that you are the one he chose over all of the women in the world to marry and have his baby.

You are NOT a beached whale. Pregnant women are beautiful! I bet your husband loves your pregnant body and thinks you are gorgeous and wonderful.

Big hugs darling XXXXXXX

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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 26/08/2009 18:59

Sounds like most of us are in the same boat! Love what everyone has said about the girls being jealous and sad that's what I like to think

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