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addicted to orgasms...

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orgjunkie · 22/08/2009 17:26

i don't even know if this is a problem or not but my sex drive has gone out of control. I feel like i'm addicted to orgasms...it's all I can think about all the time.

I have 2 small kids, very very skint, stressed upto eyeballs but I just can't stop masterbating and when I'm not doing it, I'm figuring out my next opportunity.

I just feel like it's the only way I can relax, feel good about myself, get to sleep, calm down etc etc.

I'm giving myself orgasms upto 4 times a day, everyday!!

am getting a bit worried about myself, why can't i just be satisfied with one every now and then like everyone else.

I feel like some crazy teenage boy, not a 35yr old mother of two!

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Jujubean77 · 22/08/2009 18:56

That is what I was like when I first discovered how to do it at about 12 lol....

I think it may be becoming unhealthy for you OP but have bugger all advice.

Mumcentreplus · 22/08/2009 23:17

When I was at it I was in my twenties!.....I think you will stop after a while you are just overindulging out of boredom

ExtraFancy · 22/08/2009 23:21

Get some vibrating love eggs and a remote control

BitOfFun · 23/08/2009 00:13

Can you get a hobby? I understand if you're bored, but if you are in the middle of looking after kids it's a bit odd tbh.

lilacclaire · 23/08/2009 00:17

Is there not something in the phrase 'dirty thirty' then.
I thought womens sex drive peaked in the thirties and this may explain things.
You have my sympathies, I was like this when pregnant, any chance I could get!!

SolidGoldBrass · 23/08/2009 11:41

Also, if you have only recently discovered masturbation (you don't state either way, but it's not at all unusual for women not to discover it till quite late on) thne like any new pleasure, you will want to gorge on it for a bit then settle down.

violethill · 23/08/2009 13:35

Where has OP gone? Off to the bathroom?

higgle · 23/08/2009 13:39

orgjunkie - I had feelings like this just before and during my finals at university - had to keep going back to my room after each exam - think it was just stress and excitement ( and then boyfriend being along way away)don't worry, you will feel differently soon.

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orgjunkie · 23/08/2009 17:23

thanks everyone who has taken me seriously and not taken the piss.

Glad that i'm not the only one.

I have been really, really stressed lately, physically and emotionally and suppose it is my way of escape.

Am bit more confident now that it will calm down again.

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sunshine2009 · 24/08/2009 08:17

I would say this is normal. I used to be like this when I was at school though to the extend you say but all women do it and thats why vibrators were invented lol! Everyone masturbates daily and thats not weird at all as long as it isnt getting in the way of your life then.

When I was pregnant I worked in an office and used to masturbate in the toilets! (Overactive pregnancy sex drive I drove my husband round the bend lol) You would be surprised what people get up to if you know them so you are def normal.

sunshine2009 · 24/08/2009 08:18

Also I will add I havent been able to sleep without having an orgasm since my early teens. I cant even nap if I dont orgasm as I cant relax properly. I think most people find it helps them sleep and it clears the mind.

SoupDragon · 24/08/2009 08:25

I hate people that claim to know what "Everyone" does.

HecatesTwopenceworth · 24/08/2009 08:58

I think if you are feeling low and you have discovered a way to release endorphins that make you feel a bit better then I can see how you could get 'addicted' to that.

It's not a problem unless it is affecting your life - you can't go out because you need to masturbate, have to go to the loo in other people's houses, etc etc. If that was the case then perhaps some counselling?

wheniwishuponastar · 24/08/2009 09:48

i'm jealous - i've never had one at all!!

jellywobble · 24/08/2009 09:57

I get periods like this, also when I'm very very stressed.

If you are looking ways to divert your attention, exercise is the key. It's the only distraction that works for me.

Over time, it will go away. It's a stress response I think. Probably not an unhealthy one either. But keep an eye on it, lots of exercise (do those videos if you can't get out) and enjoy it because soon it will be gone!

I know how frustrating it can feel though so take care.

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orgjunkie · 24/08/2009 10:03

jelly wobble...wow...i think you've just stumbled on the explanation!

I do loads of exercise, am in a club but I got injured about 8wks ago and can't do any exercise...totally coincides with the increase in my masturbation!

Makes sense! I love exercise, it makes me feel good about myself, gets me away from kids, is free and destresses me...

I'm very frustrated at being injured...wow! all totally makes sense now!

You are a genius and I'm a dimwit for not making that link before now!

Thanks!

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jellywobble · 24/08/2009 10:06

ah ha! Glad we have made the link.

I get exactly the same problem. And it's often after an illness/stress because when I'm ill/stressed, I tend to exercise less.

it is AMAZING the effect of exercise isn't it (those endorphins must be very powerful!) and I think the body does look to get that 'high' feeling from elsewhere (and what better place).

hope your injury ends soon and you can go back to your normal ways

I thought you sounded similar to me because I also get that 'need to get a glimpse of porn whenever I can' and it makes me feel totally mad because I'm not like that normally AT ALL!

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