My date for tomorrow night just textedd to say 'just so you know i am still trying to get out of something so i can see you tomorrow night'.... ARRRGGGHHHHH

[cheekysealion]

To me that means dont really want to see you and i have had a better offer...

saw him about 4 times last month, he was full on then we had planned to spend weekend together he texted me the day before to cancel... didnt hear from him for 3 weeks until last friday... when he texted and called me.. said he cancelled before because he was getting scared of how he was feeling about me?? but he really thinks we could be good together etc etc... he then asked me to meet him tomorrow...

and now this

I dont know what to think now.. to me he should have sorted stuff out without me knowing about it and carried on with our plans or maybe i am being selfish

Is it just me who thinks the original text wasn't meant for OP? Sounded to me like he sent it to her by accident, that SHE was the 'something' that he was trying to get out of so he could see someone else tonight?

that did cross my mind originally. Although that would be worse of course!.

I would've jsut replied "don't worry about rearranging anything, we can do it another time" and just be casual about it. It is still early days

or say "were we meant to be going somwhere?"

Just wanted to say, I had similar experience couple of weeks ago.

I deleted his number, then spotted him back on dating website, so sent a bit of a sarky message and left it at that. I pity the next girl he meets, as he really was pretty rude about just leaving things hanging- and yes he did claim he wanted to see me, but felt depressed blah blah. Like a teenager trapped in the body of a man in his late 30's!!

Anyway. . if they are not enthusiastic at the beginning just end it, quickly and erase them as much as possible. I feel so much better now!

So, did he ever get back in touch?

OK when you have just met someone and only had a couple of dates, this is not a 'relationship'. Unless and untill you have discussed and agreed how monogamous you want to be, you're not entitled to anything at all. However, when you are at the dating-finding-out-about-each-other stage, if one person is proving to be unreliable or inconsiderate or just not very bothered about the other person then RUN AWAY. If you actually want a committed couple relationship, don't waste any time on someone whose behaviour demonstrates that they don't want a committed couple relationship or at least they don't want such a thing with you.

SGB- Yes I agree that a few dates isn't a 'relationship' but that doesn't detract from how gutted you can feel when someone stops calling or reduces contact after the excitement of forming a bond. It does warrant sympathy!!!

I felt pretty close the guy I saw over about six dates, we spent a couple of nights together and he gave every indication he wanted to see me again and that he felt as excited about me as I did. . .

So it's easy to try and make excuses when they reduce contact or stop ringing.

If you're 'falling' for them, it's hard to accept straight away they don't want to know, especially when they refuse to just come and out tell you straight !!

The best way forward is to be upfront and if they fob you off with more bad excuses delete delete delete!

hi all

he texted me sat evening to say i am still at my nieces... I will text you when i am leaving...

I heard nothing more from him..............??

have you responded?

if not, then don't! he doesn't deserve it.

good thing you had drinks lined up...

no i havent texted him and wont do even though i want to read him the riot act.. but he really isnt worth it so i will put it in the past now

for you...

Oh well, you are probably better off this way. Is his 'niece' another prospective do you think???

Oh what a twat, i think you're definately better off looking for a better deal!