I'm not taking his surname now we are married - any tips?

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Particularly on what I should say my title is when asked? I want to keep my own name - its my name, but I don't feel like a Miss now either. Am I stuck with Ms or can I say Mrs Padboz and opposed to Mrs WhatPadbozHusbandIsCalled?

I'm Ms my own name but also answer to Miss or Mrs my own name. If I was called Mrs my husband's name it wouldn't occur to me someone was talking to me and I'd probably look round for his mother.

I too am Ms my own name, but also answer to Miss my name or Mrs his name. DH has been known to answer to Mr my name . Our children are my name - his name or just my name when they're 'naughty'

I am Ms myname but dont mind being called Mrs. I have been married 16 (long) yrs and never changed my name.

Agree it can be confusing when booking tables/hotels as I sometimes forget which name it is in.

The dc are myname-hisname and they enjoy having each of our names. I dont understand people who say dc will be confused. DC know I have a surname and h has a surname and they have both names.

I am still miss(or ms) on bank cards etc. Get called mrs by most people when they see I have a child. Choose Ms when I can, though no-one ever really pronounces it right, just stammer in embarrassment. Basically never changed a thing when I got married and it doesn't really come up that much that I care about it.

I am still Miss myname on everything. I didn't bother changing anything. Am abroad, spanish speaking (so Sra. if anyone addresses me - which is like Mr, doesn't imply marital status), no-one changes their names, but yes, you do need to take the children's birth certificate when travelling.

I am Ms because it's a woman's title and sidesteps the marriage issue. Miss was the title for children, so infantilises single women. Mrs. used to be the title for adult women - I SO wish feminism had reclaimed Mrs. for adult women.

I am Ms echt, and our DD has my name. Had we had a boy, he would have named with Mr. echt's surname.