How many times? Honest answers please!

[Mouette]

I would love to know how often other couples have sex. Our DS is 4 months old and we manage once a fortnight on average. It's not something people talk about at all... Sometimes I wonder if we should be doing it more... Of course there's no right or wrong... But it would be interesting to know how other couples manage! And what time of the day/which days work best for you? Finding the time is hard! I see couples who have just conceived their second DC and wonder "But when did they find the time?"
So come on, under cover of anonymity... Do tell!

Every girl should have an affair (even imaginary) with a man in uniform at least once in her life! Policeman eh? Shall I confess (shamefully) the Navy does it for me... No, am not worried about frequency of sex, sure once a week would be nice, but hey. Was just curious. Thanks for your honest answers ladies. AM NOW SERIOUSLY TEMPTED TO START A THREAD ON FANTASIES. What does it for you, hmmm? Oh I bet there are already loads of therads on that one...x

my DH actually is a policeman !

usually a couple of times a week, sometimes more often, sometimes less. Very infrequently during pregnancies and when LOs were still in our room (up 6 months old)

I can understand that... I wouldn't want to traumatise DS!

Much more than we were managing at 4 months lol

Probably about once a fortnight too, just knackered.

My dh is a policeman too.

OP, there's a vast spectrum and the only relevant factor is whether you're both satisfied.

No competitive sexing.

Good god. I'm a once a month girl and v of everyone getting it much more than me.

When ds was 4 months we had the first sex we'd had in - 11 months!!! Freaked dp out when he saw the 12 wk scan and that was that.

Time of day is the problem - dp morning, me night.

Twice a day, on a bad day.

Not at all this month due to illness/parents visiting/moving house followed the next day by AF. That is unusual. DH is looking like Eeyore.

Usually 1-2 times a week.

not this year I don't think :D
My dh really really hurt my feelings about my weight & about me "breathing" at night, apparently I nose breath and whistle etc - so I flounced out one night and now reside in the spare room.
He has made one overture that I didn't consider respectful enough so he can wank off
LOL

I would say about 3 times a week but sometimes more depending on our moods

When the babies were small it was probably more like once a fortnightbut now they are 4 and 2, both sleep through the night, and will watch TV together for 20 mins at a time if we fancy a quickie during the day or a morning bonk.

god once a fortnight sounds like heaven... sadly my libido/brainspace has never really recovered from 4 years of infertility and 'having to'. dd is 7 months and i wonder if i'll ever really feel sexy or passionate with dh again - too many anxieties are in the way to ever reach a satisfying result, not to mention the problem of fitting it in before dd awakes, so i basically avoid him now...poor sod. not what he signed up for.

Sorry, but "fitting it in" made me laugh in an extremely immature way

yes, sorry, rather freudian that one!!!

What about when people have teenagers hanging around? They don't have naps, nor are they prepared to conveniently watch TV and are alert to every noise.

Ah lakedistrict! That is the new problem for us these days. DS#1 is only 12 but goes to sleep late. And DS#2 isn't sleeping at all these days it seems How do you cope with older kids not really having 'downtime' until the morning? When you have a DD who is up with the lark? Added to which I'm out of it by 11pm and DH struggles before 7am

Exactly, Lake. There is no way that our 2 year old would watch something long enough, and there is no way our 10 and 12 year old wouldn't suss out what was going on and die of embarrassment - as would I.

Once or twice a month here and that's fine for us.

can't say there is a hard and fast rule.
Owing to an illness I had, which is now better but not 100% gone, we did have 10 years without sex in our 25 yr marriage. Now it's now and again- maybe once a week/fortnight, but we feel inhibited by having our grown up children back home temporarily, and when they were teenagers that put a damper on it due to thin walls!

It's what works for you that counts- anywhere from 3x a day to 3x a year as long as you both are happy.

Libido not what is was and after 10 years marriage and 2 kids I just about manage once a week. Can't really be arsed though! Would rather be in John Lewis I'm sorry to say

I am wetting myself laughing at some of the comments on here

we are once a fortnight as well only cos we have older kids and they dont know when to fuck off and go to bed even when you tell em too arghhhhhhhhh

we have 3 kids, aged 9. 7 & 16 months

average 5 times a week

It's not so much a matter of how often but how good. Once a week of "oh my I am going to explode!" is worth any number of "wham, bam, thank you Mam".

Train your man - close to 100% "success" rate is possible. One tap to harder/faster, two taps for slower/more gentle or three taps for success. Keep it simple, keep it quiet.

Hi Sis

The three tap method dates back to the very yearly years, well before the children came along.

I'm glad to see we both still use it!

When things are bad with my MH about once a month
When things are good once a week is enough for DH but I would like 2-3,
am particularly enjoying 2am at the moment, DS1 seems to have a nightmare about that time so everynow and then I wake DH up in a good way then we fall back asleep.