I have long running problems with my MIL- with my dd1 it was down to PND- I only had a mild form of anxiety but it festered away and I was paranoid that my MIL was makng my dd1 love her more and it boiled down to her calling her 'HER blue eyed daughter she always wanted;, hating me bf, not understanding why I wanted to wait until my dd was 6 months until I weaned her and also finding it strange that I wanted to cook all my dd's food and not give her jars. I tried to involve her by encourgaging her to make her dishes but she still stocked her cupboards with jars!
It pains me that they expect us to go round every weekend andit's not for an hour, it's literally 4 and you can't get away earlier because she really won't let you leave.. just 5 more minutes- god they see them weekly!! And sometimes in the week if she manages to pin me down. What bugs me is that we always have to go to their house and sit there while they let the kids trash the house! But I'm told 'it's fine it's grannies house ' what she fails to see is that I do have rules in my house but I know live and let live and its here house!
Anyway whats bugging me is that my sil who is 28 has a strange kind of longing for the kids, she is always round there and tmrw I suggested instead of sitting stagnant round their house on a lovely day we should go to the park, my MIL said that she would bring my SIL along bearing in mind my FIL is coming too so it's not as if she is on her own. But MIL was faffing about the time as she would have to pick sil up as she doesn't drive - I mean for christ sake. So basically my dd1 is going to have to preform for the 3 of them as they won't just let her be and run round.
Another trivial thing is that one of my dh's aunties has given all of her dd toys to us which was really kind, she has sent them to my mil's house and my mil won't part with them, she wants them at her house, which all includes a dressing table!!?? WTF- when is she going to use it???? Anyway sil dropped a bolluck the other day and said that her mom is keeping everything so that when SHE has her children and SHE starts herchildminding business she can use all the stuff- I'm like whatever but my MIL told me I should sent vouchers to DH's auntie as a sign of saying thank you- FOR WHAT???? She's kept everything at her house!!!!!!
Anyway I have tried not going round every weekend and only doing it fortnightly but we have to put up with an hour of ' gosh hasn't dd changed so much' it's enough to make you want to cheese grate your eyeballs!
I'm dreading tmrw now as whenever dil is there my mil completely blanks me an spends the whole time saying 'look dil dd can this' and 'she's learnt how to do this' etc. I do try but it gets embaressing. My dh hates going out with them as their over enthusiasm is a bit of a public spectacul.
Anyway I could yarn on!!!!!!