Why do men do THIS- need to vent!!

[littlestmummystop]

Met a guy online about six weeks ago, tall, dark, v scrummy and a perfect gentleman.

We go on, oooh about six dates, he introduces me to his friends, he stays at mine 3x ( we didn't quite get the deed done but came close...)

So far so good.

We had a right laugh together. He texts me most days. He drops hints about coming to visit more often ( notes nearby train stations etc. )

Then, he goes away for a week, but doesn't arrange to meet just before he goes. . .I find this weird and ask him: 'Do you want to see me again?' Yes he says does, I am 'great' apparently and he will drop me a line when he gets back. Then no text, no calls, zip for seven days.

I wait. Text him on his return. "hey good holiday? What's going on?' type thing. . And nothing. Not a peep. I don't even know if he's okay.

Why the feck can't men just say: 'I am not interested, sorry. . . '

This has happened to several of my girlfriends and seems so, well, immature. I've done it plenty of times- simple text: 'sorry don't want to take things further, goodbye and take care. . .'

Obv he has decided he doesn't want to take things further, but I really liked the guy and have been looking forward to his return etc. Can't believe he's actually just going to 'leave it' and not even say it !!!

I won't give anymore info about him..

1. delete his number
2. purchase gin & tonic
3. invite female friend over
4. have gin session and a bloody good laugh about the size of his willy.

OMG mine was a David too, exact same thing..!

Surely that's a warning to all women?? AVOID MEN CALLED DAVID!!!!

heee... I sold my David on ebay!

Some men enjoy being teased. You might say a bit immature though.

Actually it's probably immature to treat sex like some magical commodity as you did. If you don't enjoy it enough to want it within 3 stay overs... wow, I wonder what must make you finally want it.

Sounds like sex is work/enjoyable/too serious-important (take your pick of these) to you for it to ever be fun.

I think on balance men are too timid to go for the emotional fallout if they can avoid it. I had 2 long and serious relationships (I was actually engaged to one!)many many years back where both men just didn't show up at a date- this was after years of dating!! - and this was their way of saying "enough"! Needless to say, we did talk and I did't let them walk away without an explanation.

I think it's bad form for either a man or woman not to say they don't want to take it further. Maybe when I was 15, iwould avoid talking to boys who phoned ( no mobiles in my youth)- got my mum to answer and say I was out- hoping that ater 6 attempts they'd get the message- but as adults i think we have to be more caring.

If you are on the dating scen and are happy to meet guys/women, then you have to have the decency to say you don't want to meet any more. It's just courtesy.

OP_ I am so sorry- just keep thinking that if this is how he behaves you are worth a lot more.