Hello! A few weeks back I posted about my Dh and a woman he had become involved with. To briefly recap, DH had a one night stand (over two nights ) 6 weeks ago. DH told OW in no uncertain terms that it was a terrible mistake. OW was being persistent and I wondered what to do.
Anyhoo, the matter came to a head when, about a month ago, I asked him to leave for a few days so that I could deal with everything that had happened. When he left I broke my "dignified silence" and texted the OW saying "I have asked DH to leave. he is all yours! Good luck!". It was mean I suppose because I suspected that DH would not pursue a relationship with OW and I guess I wanted her to know and to stop pursuing a relationship that, with or without me, would not happen.
She did not text back but my husband called to say she had tried to call him 400 times in 48 hours and that he was worried she would turn up at our house. He had not spoken to OW or texted her back because he felt like it would fuel the situation.
Anyway, the night after the text OW called ME!! She wanted to know where DH was staying?! I just said "I really can't talk to you". She was hysterical and was saying "I am coming over to your house, why won't you let him talk to me" etc etc. Anyway, I hung up and was in shock. DH returned home that night because he was scared she would come over, his phone rang constantly and finally he picked up. He put the phone on speaker so that I could be confident that nothign was going on. She was hysterical, saying she loved him, what about the sex etc etc. DH kept repeating "I love DW, I'm sorry you are hurt, you can't call anymore" etc etc. It was exhausting and went on for over an hour.
DH later revealed to me that two weeks ago, when he had gone out of town for a football trip, she had "followed" him. He was walking around the city with my sisters partner and she approached them. He said he was mortified and had no idea what to tell sisters partner. She hung around them for an hour or so before he was able to tell her, alone, that she had to leave. Apparently she had booked a hotel room in the hope that he would stay with her. he didn't, my sister has confirmed he stayed at their place.
Ok, this is getting long! I'll wrap up! OW has backed off in last week. She, apparently, has reunited with an ex boyfriend. She invited us both, through an email to DH, to a "madmen" theme party. She has never spoken to DH or to me about the way she behaved the night she called, or the way she behaved generally.
I can't move on, I am full of rage about the way both she and DH behaved and how it nearly ruined my marriage. It hurt so much, we have a ten month DD and it was just a heartwrenching experience I hope never to go through again. DH could not be more contrite. I have forgiven him. We have talked a lot about it. But I feel like I can't move on until I talk to OW about how angry I am/ was. All the way through i was quite respectful and kind and now I am angry at myself for not screaming blue murder at her!!
Even as I write this I know the answer. it's too late to scream at her now isn't it??