My husband is a secret sperm donor!

[lilac21]

I was browsing my husband's usual user name on Google to see what came up (we are separating but I am wondering about his nights and afternoons out where he is gone for hours and no-one knows where he is) and I found his details on free-sperm-donations.com! He is either very altruistic or just a bit weird, I can't decide. We have two kids of our own already.

I found him on Twitter, no surprises there, but the sperm donor thing has me thinking, when I was thinking instead that I might find him on a dating website.

It's irrelevant now as he's just had a vasectomy anyway but yes, I've always made my ( admittedly strong) views on this matter plain, I'm married for the rest of my life and if my husband were to die then I would not marry or have children with another man and I expect the same from him.
It's hardly an issue now as we've been married for 25 years but I've felt this way from day one at 17 years old, even when he went off to war and had a high risk of not coming home - if I had been widowed at 25 I would not have married again or had any children.
Being dead wouldn't stop me knowing!

This is a bizarre thread.

maybe it's the same three people namechanging and arguing with each other. It does have a faintly strange feel to it.

tis all bollocks in my humble opinion.

dp donated sperm a few years before we got together.... can't say it overly bothers me to think there are 'half siblings' to my kids running around, it would be quite interesting if one of them turned up in a few years

I agree though, this thread has a weird vibe.... why do we suddenly have so many male posters who just happen to be sperm donors?

mumsiebumsie - I am sure it is him, because the website includes the man's age. It is on www.free-sperm-donations.com.

lilac21, if you and your dh are separating and agreed in January that your marriage was over, why are you Googling him? Except as it directly affects you or your dc, why does it matter what he does with his time (or his sperm)?

Maleficence, "If that makes me a selfish cow, fine". It does. My dd is the result of IVF with donor sperm. She is not a commodity, she is our beloved child. Adoption was not going to be a feasible option for us, in any case. Since when was the urge to have children about altruism, anyway?

MsH, I thought I may come across him on a dating website or similar. Should you want to know any more, my other posts here will tell you the whole story.