So apparently dd has a new sister...

[cupofteaplease]

dd1's bio dad is a complete flake. He left me when I told him I was pregnant, picked up a new gf and got her pregnant when dd was 10 days old, so dd has a half sister who is 9 months younger than her.

Ex didn't really want anything to do with dd for a long while, then when I married my dh, he came back on the scene. I thought things were getting better, he'd started to see dd on a Saturday, she'd even begun staying the night and forming a good relationship with her sister.

Then we found out from an old friend that the new gf was pregnant again. We sent our congratulations etc. Overnight visits had to stop as the gf said she was too tired to have dd staying over while she was pregnant.

We haven't heard from ex for over 3 weeks now. He just hasn't bothered to contact me about dd's Saturday visits at all. Something clicked in me, so I decided to search his and the gf's names on Facebook (stalker moment ) and sure enough, their profile pictures are of a newborn baby girl.

So, dd has another sister, but what am I meant to say to her? I don't know when she was born or what her name is. I've no idea when ex is going to get back in contact to see dd1 again- it seems he's got another dd and forgotten about dd1 for now. He did the exact same thing when his last child was born. It makes me and

[daisymaybe]

my dad did pretty much the same thing (except with a wedding thrown in for good measure. when you're 6 a missed bridesmaid opportunity is a big deal). i don't really have any good advice, except to say that as long as you love your dd very much and she always feels secure with you then it shouldn't adversely affect her later on.

i see my dad now and again (i'm 22), we're not particularly close, but there's no anger (i think because my mum has never been openly angry with him). i can appreciate that he's just a bit of a loser and his lack of attention isn't personal.

and, just in case you're worried about it, i have never never blamed my mum for the situation. i love her all the more for being such a dignified a caring mummy throughout.

[cupofteaplease]

Hi all, a quick update as you were all so helpful with your advice

Anyway, I feel that perhaps the gf is a Mnetter, as the ex text me yesterday. No mention of the baby, just asking me if he could see dd for a couple of hours during the week as her sister has missed her.

So I agreed and suggested a time (which him being him, I had to chase up ) and dd went to play at lunchtime, due back in half an hour. I'm sure she will be full of the joys of her new sister, so I will be ready to listen and give her a cuddle.

Thanks to those who posted!

[OracleInaCoracle]

thats great news cupoftea. glad it was taken out of your hands!