women initiating contact with men

[annemarier]

I'm really keen on a guy who only contacts me with texts and emails once or twice every couple of weeks .He has his own business and has two older kids that live with him.He is pretty old fashioned and quiet but has a busy life with club and community obligations. We chatted on line and e mailed briefly before meeting about 8 wks ago. We have only been out 4 times we relate really well and have a great friendship and want to take it slow ,but how slow is too slow ? I have been use to seeing previous guys at least once a week .We have been passionate and I know he is attracted to me too ,we havent been intimate and havent had the opportunity, and he knows I wanted to wait until we were sure that it felt right . I have been to his house and met his kids and he seems like a very normal honest relaxed guy , just I am not sure if I should e mail him or text him to tell him I would like him to initiate more contact as I dont want to appear as if I'm chasing him ,but dont want him to leave it too long between catching up as i need more ,and am not sure weather he doesnt see me as a girl friend yet ..when does it become dating ? ...

annemarier - yes there is difference between desperate and keen/excited. You sound like a together person. Keep gentle contact with you friend and see what happens. You are still in a better position on those in bad relationships trying to get out. Best wishes

hi to all watching ...well we have little contact these days as he decided he didnt know what he wanted ..we send each other e mails occasionally thats it ...i have moved on ,figuring if he doesnt know what he wants now and is very slow ...its only going to be slow and frustrating down the road ! I am dating someone who is the opposite and we see each other all the time ...I am very open and so is he ...we talk about having a future and take it day by day ...he's not perfect and neither am I ,but we both acknowledge that we will be open and honest to each other without fear of judgement . He is 5 ysr younger and has a fear of commitment which we dicuss as he wants to change this .....who knows ...what the future holds ...I'm just going to take it one day at a time !

I was quite late settling down (late 30s) so did loads and loads of dating of all kinds and the one universal truth about dating - no matter how old you are or how you met: when a man is interested, he shows interest.

any guy that has faffed about or not been quick to get in touch wasn't really that bothered. Men that liked me were always quick to be in contact and set up the next date, now matter how shy they may have seemed.

thanks and Yes absolutely ! and also they dont mind or get scared off if you call them , which is refreshing to realise ...we should be able to be spontanious and be ourselves and be real ! not worry about whats the right thing to do and the rules etc . So girls ..go with your gut feeling !