Why do i have 2 do everything

[gembobs]

Last night my DH slept from 9.30 till we went bed and i was left 2 look after baby and the cat n dog, then baby wouldn't settle for 2 hours from 5.30am it was left 2 me 2 do it DH just slept as he had 2 b early 4 an interview but we when i wanted 2 get up early yesterday he didn't come off his computer till 4.00am, he has now took DC's out 2 someone's house where i ave never been but he always does that so i am used to it but if i want 2 take DC's 2 someones house i am not allowed as he aint there.

This morning he went out and left me 2 look after the 2 DC's and then he came home amd completely ignored me and then he wanted 2 take DC's out, i don't mind i get some peace n rest but it was just they i was treated.

We have started 2 argue alot (both start), i don't like arguing because of the DC's but i just feel so tired and at the moment i feel so low.

Yes he is feeding formula, i ave tried expressing but wen i do it takes ages so gave up.

To me, the choice is simple - your kids or your man.

And it doesn't have to be normal to repeat bad patterns. It isn't an excuse.

BTW How old are you?

0808 2000 247 - ring them and talk through your options

Gembobs, you can't live this like. This is not life, you are missing out on so much because you are stuck with this man.

Loads of good advice on here, do get in touch with someone who can help you because this situation is not good. Don't let this get any worse.

Your family are right. Lets say for a moment you made the choice to leave him, would your family support you? Would you be able to be (emotionally) closer to them if he wasn't around? And does he make an effort with your family or is he the reason why you have distance with them, because they won't accept him?

Oh and sorry for all the questions but one more just out of interest, does he ever take you all out as a family to see these 'women' or is it always just him and the little ones?

Do you have anyone to talk to ? Are ss involved with your family already if your elder 2 are adopted ? Sorry but foudn you op rather confusing - I don't understand why you can't go out with them to his friends or why you only found out later how long they might be .

Yes, talk to Women's Aid. You need this man out of your life. Honestly. He's a shit, and a danger to you and the children. There is loads of support available and lots of women have been through similar things - being so ground down and controlled that they don't realised that a man is NOT ALLOWED OR ENTITLED TO TREAT YOU LIKE THIS.

I am seriously considering leaving we had another argument as he came home daughter was in a good mood but he told her she cannot go out in the front garden so she threw a temper and getting really angry, which annoyed me as i haven't seen all afternoon and just wanted 2 b with her.

Now he has walked out and left me trying 2 deal with 2 DC's, he has been gone since 5.30, i am not sure wen he will b bac.

what will it take ?

ther has been violence . abuse . you have lost 2 of your children. he disappears off. he is not honest with you.

what more can he do?