Who do you cry infront of ??

[NervousNutty]

and who won;t you cry infront of ??

Ohh it hadn't occured to me that it might be because I don't trust them, but you might have something there.

No-one. I'm not a crier.

If I did it would be by myself. I'm often moved to tears by things I see and hear, but I'm assuming you mean an actual sobbing episode here.

Not since I was having a wee bit of a mental breakdown when I cried in front of dh. That's it.

Anyone. If crying comes to me I CANNOT hold it back, I physically can't.

The only times I have felt like crying but held it back is when a child I had care of had a seizure - I knew I had to hold it together. A soon as paramedics were there I broke down.

husband, sister, parents etc.

Won't cry in front of the kids, it scares them. Won't cry in front of someone who has hurt or upset me, because I won't have them feeling they 'won'.

Yeah I did mean sobbing episodes Rhubarb.

It is quite wearing not being able to cry infront of anyone though too.

Anyone

I meant trust him still to like me iyswim

I never cry in front of girl friends. I always think they'll think I'm an eejit etc etc.

I don't find it wearing.

Why do you feel the need to cry in front of people?

I only cry in front of DH unless its over something really bad and then I would just cry in front of whoever
Last time I cried in front of anyone apart from DH was nearly 4 years ago when I told my Mum that DS1 was injured during his birth.

cried today in front of work colleague - well I had locked myself in my office - she knocked on door told her to go away and when she came back I opened door and started up again - there is a thread on lone parents saying why.

Otherwise usually alone - in fact as I was dropping off ds2 at school today 'separate lives' was playing over the tannoy and I welled up then. Had sunglasses on and a bike.

Hate to cry in front of parents though.

I think a good cry does you good, although I tend to do it on my own.

Definitely wouldn't cry in front of dc (I hope).

I think that I see crying as a sign of weakness and I would hate to think people see me as weak. Have cried in front of H during the discovery of his affair but try not to now - dont want him to see I am that bothered!!

My Mum cried when she wanted sympathy and that used to drive me mad, so I dont want to be the same (and I HATE pity).

Rhubarb, i think what I meant was that alot of the time I pretend I am fine to people, mainly because if I didn't then i'd fall apart all over the place. It can be wearing keeping up the pretence, and I suppose sometimes I feel like I would like to fall apart and see if anyone cared. However, I know they wouldn't, so I don't.

I sometimes try not to cry (if I'm trying to be professional) but tbh if it happens I think it's best to get it out of your system. Crying is something our bodies need to do I think (like eating/ sleeping etc) and to stop it is abit like bunging yourself up which I'm not altogether sure is healthy.

Depends who they are Nutty.

I'm not very good at dealing with crying people myself, but it would make me realise how desperate they are feeling and I would want to do something to help.

Most people would.

Yes ikwym. I am not great at dealing with crying people either, children yes but not adults.

I have one friend who dissolves quite regularly and her I am fine with as I am used to it now.

I dunno, i reckon I am just quite fucked up really lol.

I am surprisingly good at dealing with crying people

just don't like to do it myself

"I pretend I am fine to people, mainly because if I didn't then i'd fall apart all over the place. It can be wearing keeping up the pretence, and I suppose sometimes I feel like I would like to fall apart and see if anyone cared. However, I know they wouldn't, so I don't"

You said this and this is exactly what I do, hence the name ActingNormal - when a lot of the time I don't feel normal at all.

Where you made to feel ashamed for crying/expressing your feelings/showing weakness in the past and this holds you back? (that's where my repression comes from).

I know what you mean about being scared that people might not care so you don't want to test whether they care by crying and have it proved to you that they don't because you don't want to feel that rejection.

That makes me think about what someone on here said about trust. They trust their DH to not make them feel crap for crying and to care about why they are crying.

I will happily cry in front of anyone

Anyone at home. Generally not at work. DH and DC quite used to seeing me have a nice hormonal blub. It's part of me.

anyone and everyone

pref not at work though

I don't cry loads but if i feel a bit tearful then i will well up if i have to talk to someone. Particularly if someone asks 'are you ok?' lol!

Happened this morning in front of dd's teacher Had a really shit morning with dd and by the time i got to school i thought i ought to tell teacher what she'd been up to and that she'd had no brekkie or drink so they could keep an eye on her in case she was sickening for something ( turns out she was just being a little sod ) and just felt tears prickling at my eyes when i started speaking to her. Didn't break down hysterical and snotty but still embarrassing!!

Don't cry v often, but am happy (as it were) to do it in front of anyone - if it's a strong emotion, you gotta let it out.