y are men so selfish?!!!!

[3kidz]

I have just had a row well a heated debate with my OH it has been brewing for weeks now so it is partly my fault as I have kept things to myself rather than talk and then it all comes tumbling out in one hit but if i do talk to him then he has this habbit of sulking and I cannot stand sulking/silent treatment it drives me insane I hate it with a passion and it is so not constructive.

So anyways loads of issues come out and all you get is ME this and I that how HE feels well what about me???????

God we just had a right old slanging match it just irritates me.

I did get accross how I felt in the end and I think it has cleared a few things to be honset it was well needed and it's not like we argue often.

Just bugs me that I do try to see things from his point of view first where as he is all me me me

sorry just had to get that out of my system

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Arrrgh! The txt spk! It hurts my eyes!

what is it with text speak, i think it would actually make me type slower.

I didn't actually get the cork comment

I meant take the corks out ur arses i was havin a laugh. Oh and sometimes ppl might be talkin text is because ppl use the internet on their phones. + seriously i dont care if u didnt think it was funny, if we all had the exact same sense of humour the world would be a boring place now

don't you have predictive text? I never use text speak on my phone. Fries my head.

Pmsl

still not at all sure what was offensive about my post

that was me being nice

how was she "shot down"?

looks to me like she tripped over her own feet

I 'm on my itouch, not much text speak form me....... You're generalizing, again!!!

i know i said i wouldn't come back and i certainly wont be posting again but just thought i would come back and see thsi thread through.

skihorse no i wont be bitching about mn me and my OH have better things to do and are already united thank you anyways

greensleaves yes you were quite supportive but it wasn't a rage of anger by any means

Lulumama altho no you wouldn't know the full story unless i say and i take that on board even after i expalined why i don't like confrontation i still got bad mouthed

Mintyy stressed? a little but by no means illogical hun

imaynotbeperfectbutim i agree there are selfish women too and thats the one and only thing i appologise for is i shouldn't have made it a generalisation but i did correct that fact quite early on.

ILoveTIFFANY um not heard of netmums that wasn't what i was referring to but thanx maybe i will give it a try

I wholeheartedly wish i never had posted it wasn't meant as apost against men but i hve appologised for that one at teh end of the day me and OH and Oh ahd big issues to talk about which eventually we did and it was sorted i just came on here to vent as a last attempt to let go of the heatde debate we had that was merely it, although it wasn't a fit of rage and i do have issues about confrontation due to my past. At the end of the day we had our argument we sorted it the only thing that annoyed me was he was very me this and I that where as I made an effort to see it from his point first thats the only thing that still got on my nerves after our argument you know when you replay what was said? I am not even annoyed I was just slightly irritated by it.

We are now talking it was done and dusted long before this thread to be honest i am so sorry i ever posted!!

It was a small rant and it wasn't important in the general scheme of things not compared to other posts on here.

I am far from angry or anything else and although I could have posted in another tone maybe i am done with walking on egg shells believe me being in an abusive relationship leaves you with many hang up's counselling or not!

To anyone I haven't already mentioned thanx for your input! xxxxxxxx

3kidz

I applaud you for coming back and posting.
You should stick around. Honestly, people on the whole are very supportive.
I'm glad you have sorted things out with your OH.

OH I see why you were offended!!

perhaps my post was clumsily written - I wasn't in any way implying that YOU were subject to fits of rage! I just meant that one of the ways I rationalise my dh's sulking is that I prefer it to a man who goes into violent rages when he's pissed off. That's all.

I really was trying to be helpful and not to insult you at all.

Why don't you give MN another chance? We can be a bit thorny but I have had life-changing advice and support here - you just have to be a bit thick-skinned sometimes xx

kudos for coming back !

stick around , you might just like it!

greensleeves then i appologise i mis understood your post. xxx

no problem, it wasn't very well written

puzzlerocks & lulumama thanx but i don't think i will be sticking around I am just not thick skinned enough maybe i should have just shrugged off some of the comments but i can't I am what I am! x

Then I wish you all the best.

Ahh, tis lovely when things go full circle

Warms the cockles of my heart

Thank goodness you're not a Little Miss Sulky-Pants who storms off in a big ol' huff and throws comments back in people's faces. If you were, one might go as far as to say you're unable to communicate!

3kids, you really do need a thick skin around here, but honestly people are generally supportive, but WILL give their honest opinions.

Not sure if you are new to mn, but stick around, take things on the chin, i certainly have had to, been ripped to shreds in the past.

I am pleased you sorted out your differences with your DP.

imaynotbeperfectbutim I do see what you are saying and I could well understand it if i said something offensive or i had put i've had an affair or something really bad but at the end of the day it was an argument that yes got heated but that got sorted end of nothing major and if this is the response i get over something quite trivial then bugger my luck if i dared to post something more controversial or if i was looking for support!

Anyways i am really not looking for an argument maybe i am just sensitive today i dunno but i do generally as a person take things to heart don't get me wrong i can take critisism and others views i just think it got out of hand over something really trivial as i said i appologise for branding men in general but apart from that i did nothin wrong!

well actually apart from tellin ppl to get stuffed that was a bit wrong aswell sorry

still on a positive i have been on many a forum parenting and non parenting and i don't think i hve had so many replies

pmsl

och, i dont think any of us thought you had commited some sort of anti men crime really. Tis not a biggie - do stick around, just make sure you bring a hard hat! Go and lurk on the am i being unreasonable threads if you want to see real handbags at dawn material

lmao ok may well do!

aw glad you stuck around we're a lovely bunch really

I know what you mean by the eggshells! Been there too, and I'm the same now with confrontation. Funny old world isn't it, how these things change us.