I have namechanged in case the receiver of the email happens to come across this, and it is also quite personal.
I had a few dates with this guy a few weeks ago, and we ended up sleeping together, he had said all the right things and seemed to really want to have a relationship with me.
As soon as I slept with him he didn't seem to want to know.
The next day after he stood me up he spoke to me and said he had felt sick and hadn't slept all night, so i said he should go to bed and have some pepto-bismal, he told me to shut up and stop telling him what to do, I then asked him if he was being serious, he said yes, it's annoying.
I told him to have fun then didn't speak to him again.
Today I had a knock on the door when i was putting my DS to bed and I opened it, and there he stood, looking really sad, saying he wanted to chat.
I am really worried about getting into another abusive relationship and don't want to persue this 'relationship' any further, but when he was at the door i agreed that he could come over on thursday, and now i need to write him an email to say he can't come.
I need to make sure he gets the right message, i don't want to let him think that there is any hope for us.
Anyway, here is what i have.
Hi,
I don't really understand why you came over earlier?
After our dates, that I thought was going really well, I ended up giving myself to you, something that I don't just go around doing, and felt as though that as soon you had 'accomplished' me you seemed to go off the boil. You made me feel as though you liked me more than that!
The fact the you didn't come around that nice didn't bother me, we all have things that come up etc, it was the way that you spoke to me afterwards, and like I mentioned in passing my last relationship was a very abusive one that turned very violent, it started out as me getting spoken to like that.
I also don't understand why you haven't tried to contact me in the last fortnight to just turn up on my doorstep?
Anyway, I am just emailing you because I don't actually want you to come over on Thursday, I just found it hard to say to you face.
But I do wish you the best for the future x