Without going into too much detail as its long and drawn out. my p and i have been having problems in our relationship since dd was born. I have 1 other d from previous relationship.
We do not live together as we always end up arguing and everything just seemed to be confrontational all the time.
As a last ditch attempt we decided to go to relate as i had had enough of his moodiness, bad attitude and selfishness and not treating my dd the same as our own.
We have had sessions and to be fair most of the sessions revolve around him and the counsellor questioning him (which is good in a way whereas i feel its not me all the time and im not going mad like the way he makes me out to be)!
Anyways he had been asking me to go on holiday just the two of us to chill and relax and try and get things back on track as we never had a honeymoon period as fell preggers pretty quickly when we met. I kept saying no as i just didnt feel we where the same together and i didnt really know how i could stick him for a week 24/7 just the 2 of us and i have never left my dds.
However last week he convinced me to go and booked it to go in 2 days time as he is really busy working and this was the only time he had off.
Well he organised a youth club event in which my dd went to yest and you could tell he was really flustered and nervous about it going well, which is fair enough, but the attitude from him yest was terrible. my dd fell outside of a wall and hurt her knee and head and she was screaming. A man came over to help and my p friend came out with an icepack for her knee but dp was no where to be seen, apparently too busy tiding things away.
When he rang me afterwards i said to him, did you realise that my dd had fell and really hurt herself and he replied "not my responsibity" I was absolutely livid and hung up. He texted saying why you blaming me on her falling your her parent and i am only responsible for the children between 9 - 12! i told him it just wasnt any kid this was my d and our dd sister! Well the abusive texts started then to say away from him when he is working and that it wasnt his fault. WHO WAS BLAMING HIM, where was his compassion ffs!
I told him i would never accept his behaviour with my dd and thats why i couldnt be with him.
He wanted to talk, came down last night turned into an arguement, intimidated me by coming up into my face and saying dont fucking shout at me and on his way out said no wonder your exs beat the fuck out of you!
I am gutted! I was looking forward to this holiday as have had a shitty year but i couldnt go with his attitude and scared i would be left alone with him being moody it would drive me insane!
he has texted this morning asking was i still going with him and i havent replied. I want to go and have a holiday but i dont think i want to work things out with him anymore as i dont like the person he has become. Was it the stress of this new job yest? or am i making excuses as i have everything bought for the holiday but wouldnt really be true to myself if i went. What should i do????? please help and thanks for reading as it is a long rant! x