Does anyone else find this happening with family members? I spoke to my nan last night for the first time in a little while and our conversation was exactly the same as the last two or three we've had. Aside from all the usual family catch-up business (which is always nice to have since we don't live near each other anymore) we talked about:
- my dad being a workaholic (true)
- my stepmum being a moody cow distant and uncommunicative (also true)
- restless leg syndrome, the causes and treatments
Not to mention the between-the-lines stuff about how sad she is that her relationship with my dad is not as close as it once was.
Don't get me wrong, I adore my nan and have huge respect for her - she's had a very tough life and managed to come through it sane, loving and funny. But it makes me so sad that as she gets older she seems to be losing her spark and I feel like we can't talk openly like we used to, like we never talk about anything 'real', just safe, well-worn topics. It also drives me insane that she and my dad are trapped in this stupid miscommunication web where they both wish they were closer but can't seem to find a way to really get through to each other. Have given up trying to intervene now but it's such a shame - he is her only child and the absolute light of her life, and considering the shit we've all had to deal with over the years (my mum's suicide and then my brother's death from cancer aged 34, mainly) I want so much for them to be able to enjoy each other's company while they have the chance.
Um, went off at a bit of a tangent there What I originally meant to ask was, does anyone else find themselves having the same conversations over and over again (apart from on here ) and how do you deal with it?