OK, never posted on this sort of thing before - DH is a good, kind man, been married many many years. 2 DDs with health and SEN problems, the last couple of years have been hard. We are fine superficially - we can talk about the kids, the house, the dog etc etc but nothing any deeper. I know in theory all the stuff about taking time out for just the 2 of us, go out for a drink etc and we have done that and I find myself thinking that everyone else looks like they're having more fun than me, there is nothing to talk about (other than kids, house, dog). Sex is an effort, I would rather go to sleep and if I'm honest, I really dont find him attractive. How can I make things better, there must be more?