Last night I told dh exactly how i've been feeling - why i'm so unhappy and what i think is wrong with our relationship. Briefly, he has upset me deeply by refusing to share the responsibility of our lives, by not giving me any emotional support, by taking a hard line with our dcs and this sometimes bordering on emotional abuse. I sound like a half wit but i've let myself be led by his needs for so long becuase i was frightened of losing him if i insisted on doing what i wanted. all he did last night was to argue with me - every point he had an answer for and he didn't accept anything i said at all - i still don't think he understands how upset i am. today he is energetic and in control and i'm at a total loss - can't get up, feel awful, keep crying. is there any hope? should i keep trying to get through to him?