my parents came to stay last week. we have got on ok for the past couple of years although when i feel down i get told i'm being sorry for myself and hard work. But last week i noticed how strict they are with both dd and me, how much they have the mentality thsat children should be controlled. Now when they left on friday they drove off without saying goodbye coz i'd asked my father not to shout shut up at 11m dd. I'm hurt and it brought lots of qyuite agressive in a middle class type odway parentiing memories back. I havent spoken to them since friday although i would have normally called for a chat by now, they are so horrid, and even more so for not phoning to apologise. all i can hope is that i can be a more loving mother to dd than they were to me. as i dont get on with pil i feel that im not being fair on dd if we have no good grandparental relationship. i feel so miserable i want to cry but cant because of dd