I've been posting on another thread. But need some special advice now. Has anyone got an injunction against a controlling and soon to be ex-H before? Can you tell me a bit about the process and what to look out for? Anything I should know?
I've copied the relevant bit in here from the other thread.. background: We have 3 young DC... H has left over 3 months ago but behaving terribly. He has also moved a load of money and keeps threatening that as his name is on mortgage he can "break into the house with police watching anytime he wants". This is first time I called police to an incident and they came straight away, but is a repeat of behaviour during the marriage but the second time he's done it after he left also... and I feel I need to do something now to keep him away from me for my own peace of mind.
".. H was arrested on Saturday for assulating me, he stormed past into the house and wouldnt leave then kept grabbing me pulling me around. All this infront of the children. DD2 and DS1 were really distressed and worried about mummy. DD2 refused to get in his car, so he screeched off (despite me asking him to wait until police arrived and calm down) with DS1 and DD3 (baby) in his car and the police were looking for him until he came back. DD2 was hysterical at being left behind but not wanting to go. He was totally out of control.
It was like someone had dropped me into Eastenders. I always thought soaps were grossly exagorated. I suspect he'd been drinking on friday night and was hungover and wound up about something.
Anyway I asked the police not to arrest him and refused to give statement etc. But they did anyway. That was indescribably shocking for me. He went off in police car to station. But they rang me back 3 hours later to say they have dropped the case for lack of evidence after interviewing him (he denied it etc - but I had red marks on my arms which are now finger bruises so I dont doubt they believed me)
Anyway, it's on record now so I guess a line in the sand has been drawn. The police told me that H was told by them to stay away from my house and he cannot pick up the DC from my house anymore. So... it'll be contact centre now once sort that out.
In some ways I feel this sense of relief, as I just want him to leave me alone and would feel much better if I never saw him again.. DC fine but not me. It's like he can't let go. He seems to be so out of contrl. Like the debt I've discovered he's run up. The thing is he is soo controlled and manipulative in some ways, he can lose his rag, go extreme, then snap out of it. He did when police arrived and probably charmed them and seemed so plausible.
I think that frightens me more than anything. It's not like a genuine losing your temper, and then realising afterwards, he covers instantly with all smiles and "hello officer how can I help you". You should have seen his eyes flash when they arrested him. it's all so controlling. So I feel intimidated as he equally switches into a rage quickly when he sees me..."