Anyone else not send thier Dad a Fathers Day card?

[Frasersmum123]

Has Fathers Day become a little bittersweet for you?

My SD left my Mum after 23 years 2 years ago for OW and I still feel bitter about it, we carried on a strained relationship until he decided to marry OW, told me and my siblings but wouldnt tell my Mum, so I told her and he hasnt spoken to me since.

I feel so sad today, not because of the lost relationship, but it brings back all the hurt and stress if that makes any sense.

onlyjoking - good idea to remember him by doing his favourite things.

I didnt send one, feel very about it. Stopped contact with my (toxic)parents 3+ years ago, last year I sent one. Since then I tried to reconciliate but it didn't work so back to square one...

Got one for DH from me and one from DS (19mo) though

I haven't and am still torn about whether to get my DP to put one through my dad's door.

I haven't seen my father for a couple of years, and he hasn't bothered with me or my sisters for far longer than that - even when I was critically ill.

Not anymore. My dearest Dad, darling step-dad and wonderfull FIl are all now having their Father's Day in heaven. But I have bought flowers for the m to take to the crematorium.

I haven't sent one to my dad, we haven't spoken for 4yrs. I think about him a lot and wish I could have a relationship with him but I've tried in the past and it was very one sided (me making all the effort).

I feel sad today.

Sorry to hear Dragonfly74. You should send him Obama's autobiography, "Dreams from my father" for him to read. Have you read it? Well written and it's made me reflect a little about relating to my DCs.

I haven't sent my bioDad one because, basically, he's a twunt and we haven't had a proper relationship for about 22 years, but we visited FIL's grave and I wished SDad a happy father's day (no card because I'm so damned unorganised!)

Can't, dad died 15 years ago but TBH it made it easier. Felt I had to send him a card (complex toxic family stuff) and used to spend ages finding one WITHOUT the 'you're the greatest' stuff i.e marking the day rather than the father iyswim.

But would have loved him to meet his grandchildren as he was desperate for them! I also think he would have made a better grandfather than a father (not least cos I'd have set boundaries that weren't set for me!).

That said, watching my children with their father makes me realise all the more what I missed out on and sometimes that hits harder than others.

What Poledra said. Am very grateful to have a lovely, living, anti-commercialist father, who would string me up if I bought a fathers day card