I 'smell rancid and look like shit' I feel like kicking things.

[TheDevilWearsYFronts]

ExH has been to get the kids, they are staying at a mutual friends house for the weekend. And that was his parting line.

Maybe I do? I haven't had time/inclination to shower since yesterday morning, have felt so low I haven't bothered with make up.

I feel like a piece of shit, seriously.

I've phoned my mum and sobbed to her, Selfishly as she's now worried.

I can't stand that he can still affect me like this.

what will make you NOT feel like shit?

what can you do right now to change the way you're feeling? (sensible things - drunkenness won't actually help!)

Can you / would you / do you want to take control and stop him doing this? Ring a solicitor on Monday - you'll need to ask about legal aid and discuss the abuse and taking contact to a contact centre

??

Each and every time you think "actually, I am XYZ" stop yourself - outloud say the opposite: "I am NOT xyz" - soon, you'll start to believe it

Re. the phone thing, take a leaf out of Patty and Selma's book - you know, when Homer answers the phone and gets nothing but "Marge please", "Is Marge there?" "Please put Marge on", "Marge please", robotic to the max.

He is nothing but the shit on your shoes Devil. I like LewisFan's idea about making a plan to take control of necessary contact arrangements. Get a solicitor's number ready for Monday morning, jot down some questions, then forget him and have a brilliant time listening to loud music with your friends ()

well that would make anyone feel bad! he certainly knows how to hit below the belt doesn't he
what a complete snake

Bollox, dear Devil - crack open the vino collapso and tell yourself he is a total loser. My ex used to pull this stunt all the time in the throes of our break-up.

Truth was, EVERYONE (even his best mates) thought he'd been punching WELL above his weight for 13 years and couldn't believe I'd ever deigned to set foot over his grimy threshold.

My ex had a good knob too. But my now DH (with his size 13 feet ) has an even better and much bigger one and really knows how to use it too!

I was 42 when I re-married. DH is 6 years younger than me.

He is a twunt. Rise above it. Your DCs will know this too. He is digging his own grave every time he disses you in front of them.

ohh he's a nasty cock
please don't let him spoil your me time this weekend
the best 2 fingered response to him is to let him see what a fab life you're having without him
believe me it really gets them
but on a more realistic note i know exactly where you're coming from and more often than not these men tend to do it when you're least expecting it and you think things are actually on a civil note for once
my exh to a t this is
seriously tho from me i want you to have a fab weekend and go enjoy!!

I agree with asbm and can't add anything to her excellent advice. Hey, I have an awful XP who is just like yours so I know how they can get to you!

He's being a spiteful, controlling bully.

Absolutely do not let him spoil your weekend. I hope you are having a fabulous, relaxing time of it!

I would go through a contact centre from now on. That's emotional abuse.

His personality is rancid and looks like shit!

I would have said to that "Don't worry about it, not your problem any more is it?". When you phone and speak to your kids, do it while you are in the middle of loading your washing machine or some other task so you are partly distracted and sound it. What an arse. Hope you had a good night.

how are you thedevil?

He may well be feeling pissed off that you've made it clear (perhaps uninentionally!) that you don't feel the need to dress up for him. Poor his little fragile ego!

How awful - poor you. You won't smell after one day. Idiot.

(Idiot referring to him - not you!)

TDWYF how are you today? did you get a decent nights sleep.

your ex h is such a rude pig and is talking crap.