I want to find my brother but scared to try

[lemonice]

I haven't seen my brother since my mother's funeral nearly four years ago. He had had some problems and split with his wife and didn't answer phone calls. My sister last saw him about 18 months ago, he was in a state. Just after that he lost his house. My sister tried to find him in the same village just after Christmas last year and was told in the local Post Office that his only home was the pub (no fixed abode sleeping on someone's floor then)but she didn't get to see him. She left letters for him but no one has heard from him.

I am scared that something has or will happen to him and we will never know, but I'm also scared to go to the village and see if he is still there as I don't know what I will find...I want hom to know we love him and want to see him

Oh no! that's bad news Hope you can find something about him soon.

It makes me think that it was maybe repossessed? As his ex had moved out quite a long time previously.

Go to the pub and talk to the neighbours, pubs in villages are such a source of information, they can provide more leads that you can then pass onto the organisations you contact. Best of luck with your enquires, please keep posting .

I'm going to send a letter to missing brother tomorrow saying that other brother has had a heart attack but is now home in convalescence after surgery. We don't have his (missing brother) new address and he is a great uncle (as in my dd had a baby in april 2004). It would be good to get back in touch. And say I am coming there to see him on Thursday next week or is that too short notice I would find out then whether he has picked up the letter or left the village? I am sending it to the Post Office but not sure whether to send it in an other envelope with a message for the PO to give it to him or just on its own (and whether to enclose the postcard for him to send back) or without?

Could you ask the people in the post office how often do they see him? If he's only coming to pick up his benefits probably you will need to wait for a bit longer.

Thanks Chandra, I wondered that I don't know the area /village at all so not sure how to approach it, but i thought it mus this benefit of soem sort he was picking up when he was going in over a year ago - the problem is as well I'm quite shy about asking strangers stuff (pretty stupid in the circumstances I know but I'm a bit of a talk myself into it nd talk myself back out again type) And just to add I've never had an arguement or disagreement with him in my life so sad he can't be in our lives.

If I send a letter tomorrow and then wait until a week Thursday it would be better I think, just writing it down for myself....I just know that when my sis saw him 18 months ago when he was still in his house he hated them coming and then they stayed over night and he was really upset that they went. He wasn't very well and she took aover a year to tell me what had happened because she thought I wouldn't cope.

Lemonice,

Do you have a photo you can show people or even get some posters made up to display in this village and the surrounding areas?. This may be something that you want to consider also. If there are any hostels in the immediate vicinity you may want to check those as well to see if he has past through there.

I wish you every success with this letter you write. If this course of action brings no result I think you will now need to fully to enlist the help of the agencies you have already contacted.

I spoke to himon the phone this evening...just for a few minutes

I'm hoping to se him over Christmas

hope the meeting goes well lemonice. glad you managed to get in contact.

just read through your thread, im so pleased for your finding your brother. hope your short chat ends with a meeting at xmas. good luck.xxxx

I'm so pleased to speak to him, that is the best news ..the icing on the cake will be to se him again