Not sure how to start this...I am a namechanger & have been using this name to post about an unwanted pregnancy & termintaion earlier in the year.
I have an almost 1yr old dc & a school age dc. Since the baby was born dh & I have hardly been intimate. I had a section & didn't feel up to anything physical for a few months, the first time we did anything we had a condom failure (although didn't know at the time, dh certainly didn't say anything) and I became pregnant. For lots of reasons, we terminated it, mutual decision...no regrets. We are sure that we till not be adding anymore to our family & happy with the 2 we have.
I had a coil fitted at the time of termination, and ended up with an infection & had to have it out (March). While the coil was in place we only had sex twice. So in all, 3 times since dc2 was born (almost a yr ago. The last time being in January.
I am not on the pill so we are not protected (I do not want to go back on the pill, I have been on it for almost 20 years with breaks only for the 2 planned pregnancie) & he doesn't seem to care, or want to do anything to change this. I have tried to instigate the converstation several times about what to do on a more permanent level, but he just hmms & ahhs & changes the conversation.
Now, we have been doing 'other things' so the relationship isn't entirely lacking intimacy, but the last 2 times I did something to him, he faked his orgasm & spent longer than usual in the bathroom (no prizes for guessing why) I know he faked because there was no fluid, everything was dry, him, bed, me etc...(it was dark, so nothing to see).
Why is he doing this? OK...I know no one can answer this but I guess I am just sounding off while trying to find the right time to bring it up.
He seems so reluctant to be with me physically, which I can understand withy regards to the unwanted pregnancy, but why fake it when there is nothing to worry about?