I am questioning a lot of things at the moment. I have realized that if I have a crisis, eg sudden illness, or get so fed up that I ring friends or family and cry (say twice a year), then my friends and family are wonderful and rally around. However, putting on a crisis show when things are actually fine, is something I don't want to do. On a daily basis, I am always the one who organises all our social meetings, suggests interesting things to do and see, and in fact there is no area of my life at all in which I ever get to be passive or reactive. This is the same with my parents, old female friends, newly-acquired female friends, work colleagues, and also men with whom I go on dates. In fairness, ds sometimes takes the initiative by suggesting things to do, games to play, saying sweet things to me, and so on. Normally people thank me a lot for organising social activities, and, as I said, they are there for me in a crisis. I don't want to go around acting all needy and clingy, but I am sick of no one ever making a fuss of me, or suggesting evenings out to me, or inviting me around to their house for a change. I talked to Mum about this, and she said, you can't change the way you are, it isn't your style to be disorganised and needy, and friends who aren't as organised appreciate what you do. She then asked me to go out on Friday evening with her, which was nice.