My DP is a lying cheating bastard

[Supercherry]

After being very on/off for a long time and after putting up with alot of verbal abuse I find this on DP's FB:

June 4 at 9:31pm
DP: Hi X were do i no you from ?

June 4 at 9:35pm
Report Messagehi, dont think we do, i was loking for my friend ..... and saw u and though yum so added u lol.
hope u dont mind. im on facebook chat if ur on x

June 4 at 9:44pm
O right lol just looked at your friends and you no .... dont ya from Sedgley
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June 4 at 9:48pm
Report Messagehey, only just added him, dont know him either really lol.

go on facebook Chat?
or add me to msn if u want to
[email protected]
x

June 4 at 9:50pm
Add me hun LCT@ hotmail.co.uk
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June 4 at 9:53pm
Report Message k

June 4 at 9:55pm
Report Messagefunny addy? lol, awww i wanna chat to u tho, u goin online at all tonight? oh and i just added u x

June 4 at 10:13pm
Babe cant get on aint been on there 4 ages x
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June 4 at 10:19pm
See ya later X dont know what your doing really your adding every one from sedgley
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June 4 at 10:27pm
Whats the game then
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June 4 at 10:40pm
Report Messagewhat game? i added who u on bout? w/e u looked fit was all but clearly ur bit wierd. no probs. bye

June 4 at 10:47pm
Chick you added ..... as well another mate Sorry just a bit strange but fare play short and sweat wasnt it take care X
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June 4 at 10:51pm
Report Messagehow u kno ..... u bi to
? me and him used to fuck ages ago and have 3sums, as for .... .... said he was fit but never got round to adding him and saw u and added u, i use face book to pull and get good casual fucks. u clearly bit wierd so no hard feeling. bye chick

June 4 at 10:59pm
known him a long time chick aint wired have to be care full about my job thats all but take care :-)
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June 4 at 11:00pm
Report Messageknown who? ...? and wot u mean carfull bout ur job, y wot u do? god i only wanted to suck ur dick not be part of a james bond movie lol x

June 4 at 11:03pm
lol to do with football babe when ya wanna suck my dick then ?
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June 4 at 11:05pm
Report Messagei hate football well like fit players like beckham, wot u do then. and erm whenever if ur fit like ur pic. how bigs it? id do lot more than suck it lol, im not a slag well a bit, jus love no stirings sex and pulling fit guys. id suck u and swollow ur hot cum mmmmmmmmm, how cum u only msg? can u go on face book chat ? x

June 4 at 11:11pm
Im the safety officer where in Brum you from ?
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June 4 at 11:19pm
Report Messageby nia in centre, u goin on facebook chat?

June 4 at 11:20pm
what the Fuck is face book chat ?
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June 4 at 11:23pm
Report Messagelol, bottom righthand corner of your facebook, click on it and can chat live like msn is better x

June 4 at 11:28pm
Im on my phone babe battery about to go carry on this conversation tomorrow meet up weekend ? X
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June 4 at 11:50pm
Report Messagedpends how dirty u are? ive only seen one pic lol, how bigs ur dick? how u like to fuck?
cant u go on chat ewen u get home ill be on for a while x

June 5 at 12:05am
Need to see more pics of you to hun :-) im Dirty Fuck babe dick s 8''
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June 5 at 12:17am
How do you wanna be Fucked ?
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June 5 at 12:19am
Report Messageim up for anything, love it deep hard and ruff. wud do anything anal, rape role play w/e love dick. u?

June 5 at 12:32am
What is w/e gotta ask ? I love to Fuck be wile licking Pussy , bondage , Fucking in public , x
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June 5 at 12:39am
Got to go hun meeting in mornin gonna be distracted now ay i
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June 5 at 12:56am
Report Messagelol, tell me sum dirty stuff u like to do then tho first x

June 5 at 10:35am
G day X
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What an utter tosser

She's not backward in coming forward is she? Bet her parents are sooo proud

Ditch him

I know Greensleaves, the spelling is atrocious, and it's just so sleazy. I have a feeling she is just getting off on talking dirty to men on the web but I doubt she actually goes through with anything.

Any tips on not letting it affect my self-esteem?

What a nobshine, does he have a track record of this type of behaviour? I would get rid of him prompt, you deserve a lot better than a low life potential cheat, who verbally abuses you

well, do you want to be a filthy slapper with the IQ of a semi-conscious earthworm?

and from the sound of him I would be positively flattered if he fancied one of his own kind over me

Eurgh, revolting.

That girl obviously suffers from a host of issues, mainly lack of self respect, can't see why any man would find her desperation attractive. I would probably see if her Mum was on her Facebook friends list and send her the dialogue.

Your partner should be grovelling his arse off here, not bullshitting you, it's quite clear what he has been doing!

Supercherry

Sometimes women attract men who turn out to be unsuitable as a partner (I'll be polite here and just use that word) because their own self esteem and worth are through the floor. They also think they don't really deserve anyone better.

We learn about relationships first and foremost from our parents; what did yours teach you?. You don't of course have to answer that but if your parents imparted damaging lessons to you these are too easily carried forward re forming and maintaining relationships in adulthood.

Longer term you are going to have to totally reassess your own approach to relationships otherwise you will keep repeating these patterns and keep making poor choices in men.

Attila, I have told him to leave. Again. There is one thing putting up with constant moodiness and laziness but I have to draw the line at this don't I?

I am so angry and sad and part of me still wants to believe him despite his many, many, many faults.

Thank you for the insight Attila, my parents got divorced when I was 13. My dad was verbally and physically abusive towards my mum, she put up with it for 15yrs.

I'm going to take my little boy to the park now to get some fresh air but I will be back on later.

Thank you everyone.

Hi Supercherry,

re your comments:-

"Attila, I have told him to leave. Again. There is one thing putting up with constant moodiness and laziness but I have to draw the line at this don't I?

Yes you do. This man has done all of this without any remorse shown towards you as well. Do not keep taking him back; if this has been on and off for a long time this is a volatile relationship at best and an unhealthy one at worst.

"I am so angry and sad and part of me still wants to believe him despite his many, many, many faults"

I would ask yourself why a part of you still wants to believe him. Maybe you subconsiously thought your love could save him and or rescue him from his own demons. Unfortunately acting as a saviour or rescuer in a relationship never works.

Better to be alone than to be badly accompanied.

You may also want to read "Women who love too much" written by Robin Norwood.

Supercherry,

Your post re your parents relationship has explained a lot (I did say that you did not have to answer that but am glad you did, that was likely hard for you to write). This is the legacy your parents have left you. You've probably and subconciously fallen for men who are like your Dad and you're repeating the patterns.

I would urge to talk to Relate or a counsellor about these failed relationships and relearn the destructive patterns learnt from your childhood. You can overcome this and go on to have a healthy functioning relationship with a man but you've got to do an awful lot of work on your own self first. These unsuitable men chip away at your self worth and that needs to be rebuilt. And it can if you are willing to put the emotional work in.

I am not being chippy.

Just wondered what the point of the post was as she wasn't asking whether to stay or go.

A moan? some tlc? some opinions?

I'm with MorningPaper - it's hilarious. If you told me it was two 14 year olds pretending to be adults then I would say 'Ah, makes sense'. But grown ups?

I hope he doesn't catch his big dick in the door on the way out.

Point taken.

I am a point to it kinda girl today.

Arf sorry. I've just read the bit about you being pregnant.

Is he redeemable? Does he make you feel secure? Does he respect you? If no to these then of course you will be fine on your own.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

One positive (I'm grasping for straws here) - he really didn't sound quite as full on as she did - kind of like he wasn't really comfortable with it.

Do you think he would have gone through with meeting her?

Sorry didn't see you'd already told him to leave. Good on ya.

Oh God.

You poor thing.

Good on you for ending it. You are worth so much more than this peice of scum.

I'm with RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion on this one.

Facebook is full of all sorts of weirdos and I doubt very much that this 'girl' is who she says she is. It's easy to set up a bogus account and post a few photos.

This doesn't excuse your DP by the way, but I doubt there is much substance to this as a potential encounter.

Good Lord.

I am impressed they can type as they clearly are only at the Australopithecus afarensis stage of evolution

Thank you for the advice Attila, I will read that book and I will look into counselling.

Vinegartits, sorry, I didn't answer your question- no, he doesn't have a track record of this sort of behaviour. I never would have thought him capable of this. But then again, I completely trusted my ex too. I have no trust in my own judgement anymore.

Hoochiemooma, did something similar happen to you, if you don't mind me asking?

at Reality's fat balding man comment, I so hope you're right.

Swedes, no he is not redeemable, he doesn't respect me and no, he doesn't make me feel secure. When he came back from Blackpool, he was being rather cagey with his phone, I just had this feeling that something wasn't right. So I snooped. I know, snooping is pathetic, but I'm glad I did it.

I completely lost the plot today anyway and sent him a string of very angry text messages, I think I just got fed up of being the reasonable one all the time. He responded with his usual anger. In fact, he seems very far from apologetic, he is taking the attitude that if I don't believe him then there is nothing he can do. I told him I've taken all his belongings down the tip (I haven't). How childish am I?