Getn married 2moro and just seem to be arguing lots, bit unhappy really.

[Dolliebird]

Would like to hear a bit of advice if anyone's got some. I'm getting married 2moro and my H2B and I are fighting like cat and dog (over, believe it or not, whether our dd should come on the honeymoon or whether we should just have a family holiday).
I feel really really down and don't understand why the day before the wedding he would rather shout and scream than be all loving and kind. Any advice anyone?

Weddings and getting married are stressful times, of course you are arguing.

I guess you are both living together already, so it's not like when people get married before living ogether and have something new to look forward to after the wedding, presumably for you and your H2B things will pretty much go on as normal after getting married?

It is a stressful time, could you both spend the rest of the time until the wedding apart?

well thankfully (and I don't feel good saying it), but he's staying over with his best man tonight. But I'm not too good about acting all lovey dovey knowing he's been yelling harsh things at me only a day before.

he is probably feeling v fraught, as are you

Can you make a cup of tea, sit down together and relax/

Do you need to decide about honey moon today?

Sorry you are having a shit time

Huge ridiculous arguments before the wedding are completely normal. A lot of people told me to keep an eye out for them and not to take it personally when I felt he was being unloving and unkind!

It's a stressful time and you're both nervous and under pressure. If possible, try not to let the argument simmer but have it out and acknowledge your feelings.

More concerning is that you're only discussing DD coming on honeymoon with you now? Surely this is something you've already planned?

Go give him a big kiss them take yourself off for a manicure. It will be wonderful tomorrow !

Oh I think lots of brides and grooms argue a lot before the wedding.
It is massively stressful as OMDB says, enjoy your day

Oh yes, weddings are stressful times indeed, but wait till tomorrow - I bet you have a fantastic day

Make a deal not to talk about the honeymoon till well after the wedding is over and just enjoy your day After my wedding I was on a complete high for about a month afterwards, so just concentrate on enjoying yourselves and make the most of it.

Best wishes!

Ok, well that's good that he's staying away tonight.

You are both stressed, obviously, and probably both snapping and loosing your temper towards each other.

Unless you are having more long-term doubts about actually marrying this man?

that's such a shame but hopefully it's last minute nerves (weddings are very stressful)

Can you get a chance to talk quietly before tomorrow?

good advice boysarelikedogs and ohbling and much appreciated. Oddly enough ohbling I didn't think there would be arguments - what a doofus am i? He did say he was nervous, shame he didn't turn all that nervous energy into positive energy!
Cup of tea sounds good and I think we should postpone h'moon discussions (mum and dad had agreed to take dd but are now umming and ah-ing about!)

actually, no doubts at all OMDB (been married once before, got it horribly wrong the first time).

Well that's a good thing then!

Don't have any more discussions about honeymoons or other stuff that might cause an argument, just try and have a relaxed evening tonight.

The day before your wedding is not the day to make decisions that aren't absolutely critical for the following day.

Go sit in the sun with a glass of wine now, think about a long bath, sort out any hair/nail/skin things you're doing at home and make sure someone else is feeding you with something suitably delicious.

Have a wonderful day tomorrow.

Dh and I had huge row the night before we got married. When he left to go home ( we didn't live together before marriage) he snarled ' see you at the church', to me, i growled 'maybe. depends how I feel', back to him. needless to say, we both turned up. Got married. Have now been married over 26 years.

Don't worry. Stress does strange things to us all. Have a great day tomorrow.

thank you e'one for your messages. THankfully h2b gone to best mans house now, but did make it up before he went. Am feeling much happier now and looking forward to tomorrow.x

Have a fab wedding