For quite a while now it's been obvious that DH is getting less and less interested in sex (or me?). He's gone from being up for it all the time to perhaps wanting it once or twice a month.
It first started to get on my nerves because it would seem like we only ever had sex when he wanted us to (and not very often). If I tried to instigate it he would say he was too tired. Sometimes I would start to instigate sex, he would even get an erection (sorry but there's no polite way of putting it) and then suddenly it would go and that would be the end of that. Eventually I've given up trying to instigate it because I find it really hurtful to be knocked back all the time.
It's like he doesn't want it for weeks and then because he hasn't come for such a long time, his body gets taken over by his hormones and he's like a dog on heat until he gets what he wants from me then it's back to nothing again for weeks on end.
We recently had a big argument about it because I was fed up with feeling like I was just any port in a storm for him. He then took himself off to the doctors because he admitted that he doesn't get turned on very much any more ie you know the usual men getting erections where ever and when ever thing. DH has had blood tests but there's nothing wrong with his hormones.
I just find it strange because last week we were laying in bed and I was stroking his willy (sorry!), he had an erection and I wasn't really doing it to make him come just playing with it, after a while he pushed my hand away and said he would come if I didn't stop so said ok we'll save it for when you et home from work and proceeded to tell him what I'd like him to do to me. That night, nothing. In fact there was nothing for days, he didn't even attempt to lay a finger on me. At the end of my tether I made a joke of how I'd laid it out on a plate for him and he was neglecting me. He agreed and that night we had sex. The following night I started to play with his willy and he had an erection but if I took my hand off it to touch him else where by the time I put my hand back his erection had gone.
This morning I played with him, got him hard, wriggled against him making it clear I was up for a quicky but he turned over, got out of bed and said he had to get ready for work. He had loads of time for a quicky.
Is it me? I'm so confused. What the hell is going on? Is it possible for a man who wanted sex all the time to suddenly go off sex altogether? Or is it just sex with me that he doesn't want?