Am i a bad partner?

[cookielove]

My partner and i have been together for about 5 years, from day one he hasn't wanted children or marriage, well we got engaged in feb, and now after lots of talking he is saying we have either children or pets, well clearly i choose the children. Having made him or gently changed his opninion over the last couple of years should i compromise and move up north where he is orignal from to please him?

Children or pets

some how i know i'll get both, although he did say we could have a rodent!!

Hmmm, I dunno. I'd find it really hard to have to convince someone to do things, especially if it involved getting married or having children.

But then again, maybe moving up north is the compromise to having children and getting married?

If it was me, I'd probably move, but that is because I know my DH would do it for me and that's is how I'd measure it I think, as well as weighing up the pros and cons.

well i've said i will move, much to my best friends horror, however for the time being we are staying down south for now, due to my job and he is graduating (mature student) soonish and looking at jobs round here, but i think after we get married we will move away.

I think it will be hard for my parents as both my brother and sister live at least an 7 hour flight away and i live 5 minutes drive from them, however i can't let them influence my/are descison. Plus i don't think my dp would have children if he really didn't want them, and he chose to propose to me, and he has stated many times he wants to be with me forever (god that sounds slushy)

Which south and which north though?

moving from say, london to leeds is a different proposition from, say newquay to scunthorpe.

Not sure where you get the idea you are a bad partner from.

I would be saying bye bye to him if it was me.

Having to chose between animals or kids and talk someone into marriage and chidren is a no no in my book.

hmmm def not saying no no to him. And i def didn't talk him into marriage, i think he is just scared of the responsiblity of it all, his parents did not have a good break up, and this has tainted his views on marriage.

We currently live about 30 minutes north of london and he would love to live about about 30 minutes to away from newcastle.