8 year itch! how do we overcome this 'typical marriage thing'???

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I didn't think that our mnarriage was like so many marriages that you hear about, I thought we were 'different', i am now beginning to wonder-we have hit 8 years before the '7 year itch has set in.I am bored isolated SAHM- i have just got a job which i AM LOOKING fwd TO.
DH is taking me for granted, and me him and we never go out alone, he is now telling little white lies to prevent an ear bashing from me and I generally feel like we are doomed for the first time ever.I am too cross to talk calmly at the minute and don't fancy counselling-I know what they are going to say and i don't like talking to strangers.
Please could anyone advise how to overcome the bored, stressed, tired bits and please offer any advice on overcoming the 7 year itch.He is a great man and I won't get a better DH/DF but i am beginning to wonder if we can go on forever like this, the complete disrespect, taking advantage and general lack of communication are really bothering me-I can't take the 'bended truth' especially after a messy divorce in childhood help!!!!!

No advice as I'm having my own problems at the moment. What type of lies is he telling?

I am an isolated SAHM too - all my friends are at the other end of the country (I moved due to DH's job). I love being a SAHM but am seriously considering taking a part time job as I find that being at home all day, every day is contributing to our problems as I have too much time to dwell & nobody to let off steam to.

perhaps you can start opening up by communication by stating that you feel like you are taking him for granting and telling him that you are going to start doing x differently?

don't ask/expect him to do anything in return though.

Our marriage fell apart just before our 7th anniversary. We have now been back together for 10 years and are happy - the last year or 2 before the breakup were gradually getting worse and worse, but there has never been more than an unhappy day or 2 since we got back together.
In our case I think a lot of the problem was to assume the shine would inevitably go off our marriage and that when we let each other down, the right thing to do was to ignore it and go on.
Since we reunited we are not tolerant. When something goes wrong we make a fuss about it straight away. For us this has meant things do not fester.
We had to spend 3 months apart before we were both ready to change things though and put our relationship first.
There is really no cure for lack of communication but talking to your husband! You have to let him know you can't go on like this - even though the process will be painful, it could end up happily as ours did.

lying about spending money, I am finding he has to have a lot of status symbols to boost his ego- this really annoys me much as I like having things my life never has revolved arund money or things it is the content of life very much for me, although if we had no money it would be very hard i sometimes believe that makes you enjoy the smaller things in life like a walk along the beach alone. etc.....