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Original poster

I want to split with DP but I don't know where to begin :(

9 replies

purpleflower · 27/05/2009 21:59

I'm not sure if this is the right place to put this, so I am sorry if it is wrong.

We rent privately and DP works full time, I am a SAHM. I have no income at all, the CB and TC are both in DP's name.

If I ask him to leave, what would I be entitled to? How do I get it?

I just don't have a clue where to begin. I don't want to screw myself over

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SerendipitousHarlot · 27/05/2009 22:18

Erm... only child maintenance I think. I asked my ex to leave, I was at home and he worked full time. I couldn't have forced him to leave as both of our names were on the tenancy, luckily he did the decent thing.

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purpleflower · 27/05/2009 22:20

Thank you for answering me.

The tenency is in both our names but it is up for renewel next month. I'm hoping I will be able to get help paying the rent?

How much is child maintenence? We have 2 DCs.

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fuzzywuzzy · 27/05/2009 22:25

If you go through CSA for two children, child maintenance is 20% of your dh's income if you're the main carer, I think it gets reduced depending on how often he has the children to stay with him over night.

Have you had any legal advice or anything?

You'll get the child benefit too.

CarGirl · 27/05/2009 22:27

would be best if you could the child benefit switched into your name asap.

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purpleflower · 27/05/2009 22:29

I haven't had any legal advice, I was hoping to avoid anything like that as we aren't married.

I will try and find the child benefit papers tomorrow and see if I can call them.

I was hoping to avoid CSA and sort something between us, is this possible? He won't really be able to have them over night anyway as he works 6 days a week.

Do I need to go to the Job center to sort out benefits, I can remember my friend mentioning she had to go there.

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Tamarto · 27/05/2009 22:32

Citizens advice would help you sort it all out.

You'd get child tax credits for the children and the child benefit, you'd also be entitled to either job seekers allowance or income support depending on the childrens ages i think.

If you rent you'd also be entitled to housing benefit to help with all or some of the rent.

LaaDeDa · 27/05/2009 22:37

If he leaves and you remain in the home with the children, you would be entitled to income support which opens the door onto housing benefit and council tax benefit. You can still get child benefit and may get child tax credits and whatever maintenance you agree with him.
Use www.entitledto.com for a more comprehensive view.

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purpleflower · 27/05/2009 22:39

Thank you.

I've just looked up citizens advice so I will give them a call tomorrow.

DS is almost 2.8 and DD is almost 8 months.

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Tamarto · 27/05/2009 22:41

You'll be entitled to IS then. entitled to is a good website too.

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