Snogging -- dont do it any more -- not sure I like it --- ? Am I weird

[mulranno]

I never really liked kissing my husband...when we first started going out he smoked heavily, had bad teeth and was a bit slobbery...we have always had a great sex life...just that we dont snog...or I avoid snogging...? Am I missing out..?...is he or are both of us just crap kissers? I think that I really just dont like french kissing and thats all he does...do people kiss in other ways...can believe I am posting this "teenage post"...but kind of bother me

Have you talked to him about the kissing?

If I never kissed my DH again I would feel sad. A kiss is more important than sex cttoi.

Actually I wonder how many married couples actually do snog? (apart from when doing the deed!) Do wives/partners wave the other half off to work with a snog on the door step. I certainly don't. A peck on cheek isprobably as far as it goes.

Now a hug, I do like.

I think it is something you do when you are first going out with someone isn't it.

God this topic is actually putting me off the box of matchmakers I am sneakily eating from the draw in my desk, so the dc dont whinge for some.

Has he had his teeth fixed? And also, does he take into account that you don't smoke and brush his teeth or swirl with mouthwash before you get intimate?

I don't have big massive long kissing sessions like I used to when first started seeing DH and some things can naturally tail off a little bit in the normal course of a relationship. However, I love kissing him all the same. I smoke, he doesn't so obviously I naturally make effort to get all nice and minty for him (as he does for me too BTW ). And to be honest, I'd hate to kiss someone who'd just had a ciggie or who had horrendous teeth.....yuck. Some people are fine with that though and that is cool too.

Also, there is the option that maybe you are just not big on kissing. I think it is important for you to decide if it is something to do with him that puts you off....or if maybe you're just not into it that much. And if you're just not that into it, then fine, nothing wrong with that.

We snogged every morning and evening when going to, and coming in from, work but that did stop by the time number 3 came along but we still kiss every day and is mostly a mini snog.

PMSL at 'mini snog' That is so sweet

And he can't go to work without giving me 3 quick kisses if that is all I am getting.

I mourn the loss of snogging from my life. Is one of the best things in the world, but does kind of go out the window...my dh and I never really snogged even when we first met, although sex always amazing, we sort of don't click like that. I really miss it though, but is very awkward trying to do it, almost like we know eachother too well now. Would be easier with a random fireman...

I'm not keen either, we didn't really snog much for about the last 14 yrs of our 17 yr relationship.

A hug - yes, as long as I don't feel smothered. And a hug with NO feeling of OH wanting more is bliss.

maybe its an out of date hang up - he has nt smoked for 10 years and the teeth are all fixed. think he just goes full throttle with a french kiss and i dont like it...is kissing always french kissing

Ah, I never thought of the connection between a kiss meaning more than a kiss. Kissing shouldn't equate shag....well not all the time anyways

Not it (probably) should not always be full on french kissing. Pecking the cheek, the lips, a nice wee smacker on the face when you're not expecting it and so on, it is all good, lovely and affectionate but probably shouldn't necessarily be intense all the time. Variety is the spice of life

mulranno - really good kissing, is kind of mouth open and tongues on and off (I think) not like someone really shoving their tongue in your mouth and swirling it round and round...that's yucky.

No, it should't always be French unless you both want it to be.

If I am doing my teeth when DH has to go to work he kisses my cheek or head and I love it. Feel about 3 but in a nice way.