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If your DP cross dressed, would you mind? Would you leave him for it?

16 replies

LolaTheShowgirl · 26/05/2009 09:37

I used to be with a cross-dresser and after the initial shock, as he appeared to be a real masculine kind of man, it was quite good fun!

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Overmydeadbody · 26/05/2009 09:39

I would only mind if he kept it from me and was basically decietful and dishonest or didn't feel he could be open with me.

mrsmaidamess · 26/05/2009 09:39

I would not be able to be with a man who dressed up.

hercules1 · 26/05/2009 09:43

I wouldnt mind and it's not reason to leave someone anyway.

mrsmaidamess · 26/05/2009 09:43

It is if it's something you can't accept, isn't it?

HolyGuacamole · 26/05/2009 09:44

I wouldn't judge someone who cross dressed or judge someone who was in a relationsip with a cross dreser, but personally I'd find it a turn off in terms of being in a relationship. Each to their own etc etc.

stainesmassif · 26/05/2009 09:45

has anyone read 'this charming man' by marian keyes? first cross dressing hero i've read about....he sounded lovely!!!!

Rubyrubyruby · 26/05/2009 09:45

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hercules1 · 26/05/2009 09:47

Why couldnt you accept it? I guess I've been with dh now for 15 years and I feel strongly about each of us supporting the other in life decisions e.g career moves, giving up work, etc so I would expect him to support him if I cross dressed and it has to go both ways.

Curiousmama · 26/05/2009 09:50

I wouldn't be his lover but I would still stay friends and help him with his style.

akhems · 26/05/2009 09:52

I was in a relationship with someone and after a year or so they told me about their cross dressing.. I tried for about 4 years to cope with it but in the end I found it too much to bear and the relationship came to an end. Part of the problem was that when he changed clothing he also changed personality into a simpering, giggling girlie girl and it became a huge turn off.

BecauseImWorthIt · 26/05/2009 09:53

This has just happened to a friend of mine. She couldn't/wouldn't accept it, and they are now divorced . It has been very difficult for their children to comprehend as well - and I would guess quite confusing.

hercules1 · 26/05/2009 09:54

No, personality change I couldnt cope with.

mrsmaidamess · 26/05/2009 09:55

herc It's just something I wouldn't be able to accept...we're all different, aren't we?

I'm not judging anyones choices in their life. But if my dh was wearing womens clothes (what an image that brings to mind) It just wouldn't be the same marriage anymore for me. I'm speaking theorhetically.

violethill · 26/05/2009 10:05

Only if he had really appalling taste in clothes

solidgoldSneezeLikeApig · 26/05/2009 10:10

Wouldn't bother me. I have had cross-dressing partners in the past.

GypsyMoth · 26/05/2009 10:10

I wouldn't leave, no, but HE would!!

Find it immasculates a man. My ex bil used to do this, then it became more and more......and got a bit silly really.

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