Not sure if this is the right section but am hoping someone has some advice.
I'm posting on behalf of my friend.
She had her second child about 8 weeks ago. She was 5 weeks premature so everyone was a bit in shock.
My friend's doing a brilliant job despite her ds (3) being violent towards his new sister.
Her dp on the other hand does not seem to be coping. He hasn't changed her nappy or her clothes, rarely cuddles her, says things like 'she's f**king at it again' when she cries. This isn't like him - he's a pretty good guy all round and spends lots of time with his son.
This is obviously putting enormous strain on their relationship. He just doesn't seem to have bonded at all with the new baby.
Does this sound like PND? Or post-traumatic stress thingy? My friend was in hospital for 9 days, over her dp's birthday as well, and I just think he hasn't come to terms with any of it yet.
He's not the kind of guy to go for counselling... has anyone else had similar experiences with positive outcomes?